Advice - What to do when you can't get everyone's address???

Www.whitepages.com

Or enlist the help of your FMIL

Can u reach out on line Facebook or email to talk to the cousins? I had to write some of my work friends on facebook so we could get their addresses. No one seemed bothered by it.

I'm having a similar problem, because a few of my dad's siblings are freaking nomads, I swear.

FH is having the same problem. He's like if the no-addresses decided to just show up, they will be left standing outside. FMIL asked him if she needed to rustle some feathers and get them and he told her no. FH asked them directly and they failed to respond. Their loss. We'll probably start getting questions and whatnot once the invitations go out.

We used several means to obtain address (both sets of parents, other family members, phone calls, and email/Facebook private messages). Good luck!

I would stop letting it drive me crazy by delegating this task to FH since it is his side of the family giving you grief. Have him make it clear that no address = no invite = no chair or food for them at the reception.

No address = no invitation.

I am lucky to only have had 2 people not give me their address, but you bet your bottom I've been texting, fb etc. My guests can Rsvp online so I told them they can just do that

Aww mannn E-Tex beat me to it!

Try facebook, or try to get their phone numbers/emails from other people. If not, just call the family members who know this information again and just be straight forward: I want to send them their own invite.

@Maltese – FMIL is doing the best she can, it is her sisters that are not being cooperative. She is very passive, and just doesn’t want to keep pushing for the addresses.

@Tori – I have been sending PM to those family members on FB that I am friends with, and have gotten quite a few addresses this way.

@Nicole – we have identified those “frequent movers” and I am in agreement to send their invites in care of other more settled family members.

FH has a “so what” attitude about it, if they don’t give it to us then they don’t get invited. He told me to let it go, but he has been calling to ask people. Unfortunately, he keeps getting brushed off (I’m driving right now, I’ll send it on FB, I’ll text you) and they don’t give him the address. I asked him what does driving have to do with saying your address, you already answered the phone and are talking???

Thanks everyone for the suggestions – maybe I’m just being overly sensitive, I do have more than 300 days before the wedding so it is possible some of these addresses will get to me before invites need to be mailed.

I've had the same problem in past Parties and get togethers. For the wedding I just gave the option, do you want your invite mailed in the regular post, or electronically? Most everyone opted for electronically. I know everyone wants to do with the way they're supposed to but You can't force people to cooperate. So in the end sometimes you need to choose between What's going to work and what is considered appropriate. I would continue to ask them for their addresses, but I would not be shocked if even at the last minute still no Cooperation. probably best to just send The invites to in care of Certain people as they requested. Believe me it doesn't matter what you tell some people. they will still never understand.

I had to reach out on Facebook to get a lot of FH's family's addresses. The ones I'm not friends with on social media I've asked FMIL to gather for us. I'm still missing one of FMILs brothers and I just won't send an invite if I don't have an address. I'm tired of hounding her for it. My thought is, if someone wants to be invited they shouldn't make it so difficult to get their address!

I'm having the same issue. It's crazy, I'm at the point that I've asked multiple times and if you don't give it to me you will not get an invite.

I tried through FB (even if you aren't friends you can usually still send one private message) and found some that way. Others I phoned their parents or siblings and asked for their adult kids phone number so I could call and ask for their address. In the end I was still missing about 11 addresses of family, so I did what was suggested to you, and sent one invitation with like 6 names on it to one address. Obviously it isn't offensive or rude if they are suggesting you do that with their own family.

Try whitepages and Facebook, as PPs have suggested. Then, explain to everyone involved that if you don't get addresses, these people are not receiving invitations, and they're not invited. If people can't go to the trouble of providing an address, I think it's on them, and they can't be mad when they don't receive an invite.

How long have you been trying to get the address? If they don't give you their addresses by a certain date, they don't get an invitation.

@Ruth - since mid-May. I get the impression that they don't feel it is an urgent issue because the wedding is not until next year in May.

Look, if your hubby doesnt feel comfortable calling or texting these realitives to ask for their address, you both should rethink inviting the more distant ones your fh obviously never talks to. If you havent talked to them in 6 months, take em off the list. Youre just reaching for gifts.Why would you guys want people at your wedding you barely know...even IF they are cousins, 2ns cousins, 3rd cousins etc.

@Mrs Cheapskate - it isn't an issue of not knowing them, he has a very close family (including cousins) and talks to them on a regular basis. His entire family lives out of state - we can't not invite his entire family because he grew up in another state than where we live now! I am not sure why you thought FH never talks to his family? He has called and texted them, like I said they just don't seem to understand the importance of an invitation, RSVP, and having a concept of how many people are coming!

Wow are we marrying the same guy, I am having the same issue. They also just told me to mail one invite to all the aunts :/

I came across www.postable.com and it's made my life easier at least for the people who have text/email I received 50 responses within 24 hours it was so easy for them to fill out.