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ADVICE - Thank-you notes for an Engagement Party

Vanessa_DW, on July 10, 2014 at 2:04 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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We hosted an Engagement Party 2 weeks ago for about 120 people - it was a very casual backyard party at my FBIL's home. Lots of food, drinks and fun!

I was chatting with my mom last night about Thank-You notes as I need to get them out (we received gifts from almost everyone in attendance... unexpected as we just wanted to have a party... but we are extremely grateful none-the-less). My mom suggested doing email thank you notes - personalized to each recipient of course - since we had done evites for the party itself and it wasn't a formal event at all... I was totally prepared to send out paper thank-you cards... but now she has me thinking! This would be much easier and wayyy cheaper!

I would use something like paperless post to send out the card... so that it still looks like a card and not just a simple email... What are the opinions out there? Are e-thank you's appropriate for this kind of event?

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Latest activity by Lyssa, on July 10, 2014 at 3:55 PM

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Gamecock Mrs. · on July 10, 2014 at 2:12 PM
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Hey! I'm a Vanessa too!

I would strongly recommend writing real thank you notes for each gift that you received. Sorry to be that girl, but I totally am. It's probably mostly couples, right? So you can send out only 60 instead of 120.

If you go the email/PP route, I would make sure that everyone's is individualized. Thank you for the _____. We will use it for _________. Can't wait to celebrate with you at the wedding.
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Vanessa_DW · on July 10, 2014 at 3:27 PM
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Yay! Another Vanessa!

Thanks ladies... that was my initial instinct too... but my mom was pretty persuasive that since we did evites for the event that it would be okay to do e-thankyou's too... just wanted to run it by a few others as well
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Koch Bride · on July 10, 2014 at 3:28 PM
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I'd do written out thank yous as well. I know its a lot of time but I think it never hurts to go the extra mile
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Emily · on July 10, 2014 at 3:39 PM
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Nope, written notes are more personal and the way to go. It doesn't matter how the invitations were sent or the style of the party. Your guests still took the time to shop and spend money on gifts for you.
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LadyMonk · on July 10, 2014 at 3:40 PM
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I think paperless post is great for thank you notes for something like "thanks for coming", but since people brought you gifts, I'd say that you should be sending physical thank you cards
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Lyssa · on July 10, 2014 at 3:55 PM
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I would maybe split it up if you're worried about cost. If it's someone who is more traditional (aunts, uncles, whatnot), or someone who brought an expensive gift, then send a card. If they're more friendly, an email should be fine. They know you well enough to know you're not trying to breach etiquette.
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