Without going in to too much detail, I am looking for advice on how to approach having a small, more intimate (40 people ish) ceremony, and then have a large (over 200 people) reception.
The important parts of the backstory: I've been unhappy in the wedding planning process. FH's mom is a socialite who enjoys hosting large events, and our wedding will be the first large event since Covid. We originally planned for a large wedding, but I really don't like the idea of getting married in front of 200 strangers, of whom I know about half. I know that suggesting having a small ceremony, followed by a large reception will not go over well. But in my culture and background, this would be fine, a few people might get butthurt that they weren't invited to the ceremony, but overall it wouldn't really matter. (I've been to at least 4 weddings where I was only invited to the reception)
So really, I have 2 questions:
How would you approach this conversation/ ask for this? (maybe some pros to having small ceremony?)
Or would you just bite your tongue and go through with the big event?