Advice Please! Grandma Didn't Listen & Needs a New Dress!

I say if your grandma is comfortable and to use your words, "feels beautiful in it," let her wear it. It's not like she's going to be confused for a bridesmaid. Not sure how long until your wedding, but once she sees the decor, your dress, etc, she could change her mind on her own. Otherwise, this is not something I'd stress about!

I can't really help, because I am letting my guests wear whatever they want. I feel like you can't really delegate what color a guest will wear to your wedding.

Why is it so important that people don't wear navy and yellow? I wonder if your grandma was confused and thought those were the colors she was supposed to get. Either way I'm not a fan of telling guests what they can and cannot wear. I say ask her if she feels beautiful in it, if she says yes than be happy.

I think you are over thinking this. I also agree with the PP's.

Yeah, you're in the wrong on this one. Let her wear what she wants. After all, I'm sure she's been to more social functions than you and knows how to prepare for one. I would bet all my money that not one single person will notice that grandma is in a color that you don't want her in.

Unless the dress is dirty, worn, or otherwise not appropriate to wear in public, don't worry about it. Not everyone is going to be dressed to the same level of formality, because everybody has different definitions of 'formal wear'. Unless this dress truly makes her look like a bag lady, let it go. She likes it and feels good in it, that's what matters. No one's going to confuse her for a bridesmaid just because she has a navy pattern.

I think OP is more worried about how formal the dress is rather than the color. Is it like a sundress at a black tie affair? Could she maybe fancy it up a bit with a shrug or jewelry? Is it so much of a difference that you grandma will care? I do know that If for some reason I miss understood the dress code for something I would be embarrassed, but that's just me.

I didnt read the comments..and im not be an a -hole..be thankful your grandma can make it to your wedding. My first marriage my g-ma was admitted to the hospital 3 days before my wedding and passed 1 month later...

Hmm...give her as much a sense of the wedding as possible, so that she may pick up on how casual her choice is in comparison, but if she doesn't bring up wanting to change her dress, don't do so yourself. I really understand where you're coming from, though, because I have to accept that both my parents will undoubtedly be the most casually dressed out of everyone at my wedding. My dad will most likely wear what he wore to their wedding, which is also what he has worn every day for 40 years -- khakis and a button up, with a wool pullover vest. Regular old shoes. I don't think I've ever seen my dad wear dress shoes in my entire life (literally). At first, I struggled with this, thinking that my parents (especially my dad) would stick out like a sore thumb, and look out of place in pictures. But what would REALLY look weird would be for him to wear something completely out of character -- which, unfortunately, rules out everything that I would deem appropriate for a non-casual wedding lol But it is what it is, and I want my parents to feel at ease and like themselves on the day of. I have tried to show my mom pictures of the kind of dress my FMIL is going for, just so she knows what she'll be surrounded by. I had the same concern you have, that she would look around at the wedding and feel horribly under-dressed (my mom hasn't been to a wedding in decades, and even then it was always small courthouse affairs followed by dinner in a restaurant -- not the full on ceremony and reception, like we're doing -- so she really doesn't know). But when it comes down to it, if she doesn't feel strange being less fancy, then I don't care. I already know there's basically no way that I will actually like what she's wearing, because I never do, and that's totally fine. Not worth causing a thing over.

I agree with the above comments...let your grandmother wear whatever she would like to. I definitely understand your concern of her dress not being formal enough, but at the end of the day if she feels beautiful, that is all that really matters. Quite honestly, FH and I are having a formal wedding and I'm not even thinking about asking my grandmother to wear a certain kind of outfit. I just feel that it is a blessing that she is alive and healthy. Moreover, I've heard of the parents of the bride and groom wearing things that complement the wedding, but not until I joined WW have I heard of this extending to additional guests.

Can she wear it to rehearsal dinner instead? And you can gift her a dress you both like for the wedding.

Thanks guys. You helped me view this situation from a different perspective. Like Zeny pointed out, it's not so much the color that I'm worrying about...more of the formality of her dress. Its a night wedding with a full course dinner and her dress is more like a sundress. I agree that I should just be thankful that she is alive and able to attend though. As I mentioned, compared to other guests and my family she will be underdressed, but I will try to talk about wedding details more to give her an idea of what's going on. If she changes her mind, awesome. If not, at least she'll feel beautiful.

Oh yes, let Grammie wear what she wants. This is minor. She's going to be sitting with the guests and not up on the dais with you and the wedding party, so what difference does it make? Seriously, when you get to be grandmother, you've sort of paid enough dues in your life to be able to choose your own dress. That being said, I can't remember who posted the other day that their grammie bought herself an actual wedding gown and wanted to be paraded down the aisle just like the bride. Obviously NOT okay. lol

You'll stress yourself out worrying about what other people wear. Let it go.

GrayCatVintage's Grandma bought A WEDDING DRESS to wear to her wedding. Let this one go.

@Sarahdell Preach it!

Let her do what she wants, she'll look fabulous. My grandma bought this all black skirt and blouse set with attached pearls for my cousin's wedding. She was the only one in black at a rustic country wedding, but she was just fine and no one commented on it besides to say how good she looks at 80.

A nice cardigan or shrug would cover the fact its a sundress. I think its cute she bought something to match your colors. Its a patterned dress, so she is going to look lovely in the pictures...especially if SHE loves her dress. Oh and btw, Grandmas get away with everything! They've EARNED it, or so that's what my Grandma used to tell me when she would say something crass that pissed everyone off! Lol. God I miss my Gramma!

Yea, my grandmother bought a WHITE WEDDING DRESS to wear to my wedding - I would be so damn thrilled if she had told me she bought something white and navy....

She should wear whatever the fuck she wants to wear and is comfortable wearing. You don't tell adults what to wear. If she thinks it's formal enough that is her perogative. I also second everyone in saying I wish I had grandparents to even come to my wedding.

You could go visit and suggest a shopping trip as part of hang out time. I bet she'd love to see you and it could be a fun day. I'd give anything for my grandma to come to my wedding but she is too weak to make trip.