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Advice on brother in law getting a divorce

Robin A., on July 23, 2013 at 9:38 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Hey! Been a long time since I've posted! My brother in law is divorcing his wife. She told him she hasn't loved him for a year and doesn't want to work on it. I feel SO badly for him!!! They've been married for 3 years and I thought they were pretty good together, but I guess I was mistaken. He's such an awkward guy and has been out of work (only odd jobs) for a while. But he's really ambitious, has is doctorate, and tours with a klezmer band.

What can I do for him? They live in Michigan and we live in colorado. I just really wish we were there and could have him over for dinner or take him out!

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Latest activity by D1, on July 23, 2013 at 11:11 AM

Master November 2013
We'llAlwaysHaveParis · on July 23, 2013 at 9:57 AM
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Just be there to listen - no judgement, no advice, don't trash her. Just listen.

When I went through my divorce I just wanted to know people supported me. Didn't try to solve my problems, or get to the root of what went wrong. They just accepted that it was the decision I had to make.
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Super September 2012
Sam · on July 23, 2013 at 10:01 AM
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I think this is her husbnads brother, making it her brother in law... not her sister's husband... am I right Robin??

It's alway tough when couples that we feel are good together decide for themselves that they aren't.... and its alway hard on the one that wants to try to make it work when the other one doesn't....

No real advice, just hugs....
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Master September 2012
HisMrs · on July 23, 2013 at 10:15 AM
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Well Hi there Robin! Glad you popped back in!

Im with the girls. All you can really do is let him know you're there for him at least emotionally if not physically. Hugs to you and your brother-in-law, honey.
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Master July 2012
Robin A. · on July 23, 2013 at 11:04 AM
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Yes, it is my husband's brother. I just feel so badly for him! Unluckily he and I are not super close because we've never lived near each other and don't get to visit often.

Great advice, though. It's a sticky situation that I haven't lived through yet.
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Master October 2013
D1 · on July 23, 2013 at 11:11 AM
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Maybe you could invite him for a weekend over to visit as well as all the other suggestions of just being supportive and listening.
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