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Dedicated November 2013

Advice? Not enjoying wedding planning. :(

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Rhonda, on September 9, 2013 at 11:48 AM

So if it were up to me I would elope. That's just the kind of person I am. Or have a small, backyard style wedding. But neither of these things are going to happen and I was initially happy about our decision to have a small and simple wedding. I guess it's not as small as I thought it would be and...

I guess it's not as small as I thought it would be and there is more stress than I wanted. I feel weird because I'm not enjoying it more and I feel like I should be ... Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy to be getting married and I can't wait to be married. But I can't wait for the wedding to be over. I'm not into all the froo froo stuff and it's hard trying to make everyone happy. While people say what you want to do at your wedding is entirely up to you and the groom, I wholeheartedly disagree with that statement. It's so not true.

I've had opinions on everything from what order the toasts should be given, to what food should be served, to how other things should run. Feeling stressed. I also was lectured for not sending response cards

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Dedicated November 2013
Rhonda · on September 9, 2013 at 12:38 PM
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Even though I would rather elope, I did decide I wanted a wedding, just wanted it to be stress-free and laid back. I'm the type that would have been fine with BBQ in the backyard. It's not turning that froo froo persay, it's more just trying to make sure everyone is happy with the choices we are making.
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Dedicated November 2013
Rhonda · on September 9, 2013 at 12:41 PM
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I am insisting on some things ... I lived in Taiwan for two years and feel very connected to Asian culture even though I'm a blonde American. So we're having sky lanterns after the church ceremony. I could tell some people really weren't impressed by the idea but that is one thing I am having (unless the weather is bad).

Maybe I really am just worrying too much.
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Rachel DellaPorte · on September 9, 2013 at 1:55 PM
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Who cares if some people aren't impressed by sky lanterns? You are, and they mean something to you. I wish people would just experience weddings and enjoy the unique elements featured in all of them, instead of pretending they're judging "Four Weddings".
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Candy · on September 9, 2013 at 3:46 PM
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Sky lanterns, how romantic! It sounds as if you really need to adopt the attitude of "Either you're on my side or don't help". "Help" is just that. They want to assist you, not give them control.
If you don't even want a cake topper, don't have one. I for one, did compromise on the day we will have our wedding, only because of religious beliefs. After that, I decided that we as a couple, me as an individual would proceed with things so they reflected what WE wanted, not others.
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Married2013 · on September 9, 2013 at 5:43 PM
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I completely understand how you feel. I am so done with planning. I’ve had so much drama in the last year, more than I’ve ever had in my entire life, and it all derives from disappointment from what people say or their actions. I’ve tried not letting things get to me, but that’s not my personality, I’m sensitive. I thought about pulling the plug on the wedding a few months back but I’m glad I didn’t. I’m 11 days out and I can’t wait for all those special moments I’m going to share with everyone. On that day I’ll understand why I went through with all this. Keep in mind that all this planning does lead up to some very special moments, it’s not for nothing!
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