The diagnosis we received has left us with little hope that my fiance's father will make it to September of next year, when our wedding is scheduled. We are considering doing two ceremonies - one small civil service in the state where my fiance's father resides within the next two months and the second larger wedding at the venue we've booked for next September.
My family is struggling with the idea of two weddings a year apart from each other. They feel that the second ceremony would be "fake." I don't see it that way. Especially because the civil service would not include the meaningful religious and cultural pieces that we want to incorporate in the wedding for next year.
I don't know what to do to make my parents more comfortable with this decision or how to legitimize both ceremonies. Please help.