Advice for my Parents

Your sister is in the wrong for behaving disrespectfully by accusing them of favoritism and acting like a spoiled brat.. I suggest you tell your mom that a better alternative is pay for something more of an investment or worthwhile. Perhaps they could directly make a payment towards or pay off a credit card debt, student loan or house down payment?

I understand a bride wanting a similar financial wedding gift her siblings were given but to demand it is rude and to yell at her parents for not forking it over it beyond appalling.

View Quoted Comment Exactly like my brother. I have told my parents to financially cut him off. Their relationship is money and is on a needs only basis at this point. Your sister is definitely in the wrong but again you parents need to stop this behavior.


I think my mom fails to realize that every dime she pays my brother enables poor behavior. He cant manage his money then dictates we pay for electricity Bill's, food, etc... The money she gives my brother and I go to totally different things. Wedding, college and other large expenses.
So yes, they have to pull the plug a little bit

View Quoted Comment A few months ago she wanted $5,000 in cash from my parents for closing on a house. My mom offered to bring the money to the closing rather than handing her the cash in advance, but my sister said no she wanted the cash immediately. A few weeks after that she decided to rent another apartment instead. Also, she ended up deciding to go back to college after dropping out once before. She wanted my parents to pay for her to go back to college. My parents said no because she had already dropped out once and thef didn't pay for me or my brother's schooling. She ended up dropping out again because she was failing her courses.

View Quoted Comment It is really sad that they have to act this way. Unfortunately, my sister has always been this way. When we were little and my mom bought me school supplies, my sister would also want something because I was getting stuff for school and she wasn't in school yet. For Christmas, she would count how many gifts each of us got so even if one cost more my family had to make sure there were the same exact number of gifts per child. She is now saying my parents owe her the money because growing up she was punished more than my brother or I, but she seems to forget she was worse behaved. She used to break and throw things. She would hit my parents or curse at them so she was grounded a lot more. She feels because she was grounded more than us that that was child abuse and favoritism so she is owed the money because of that.

View Quoted Comment From what you said, she seems to be grasping at straws to draw more money out of them. Which sounds desperate and a big red flag for a drug user. I definitely wouldn't give or money or feel bad about it at all if I were your parents.

View Quoted Comment She has done an excellent job at tearing my mom down. My mom now feels like she was a terrible mother because of the things my sister has said and done. She is trying to blame my mom for her bipolar disorder and her drinking, smoking and doing drugs.

View Quoted Comment Oh, she's bipolar. Your mom shouldn't take anything she says personally. I know it's easier said than done. Just remind her that she is a wonderful mother and sometimes, there are things about your children that just are..things that no amount of love or parenting can change.


It's always easier to blame others for your mistakes and shortcomings. It's even easier when youre being enabled..which is what giving her money just because she demands it would do.

View Quoted Comment My parents have stopped giving her money because she just turns around and demands more. She only ever talks to any of us when she wants something. Whether it is money, gifts or to watch her fiance's child. She has complained about not having groceries or gas so my mom has in the past offered to meet her at the store to buy these things then my sister tells her to forget it which makes us think she wants the money for something else. Her fiance is supposed to be starting school in January and it seems rather convenient to my parents that she suddenly wants a whole bunch of money right around the time he would need to pay for his classes.