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Advice for day of the wedding

Kenia, on April 28, 2021 at 12:13 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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There are just 44 days left until my wedding date.
There’s so much going on right now and I’m honestly stressed out but super excited.
We are literally building our small studio, and constructions coming along great. I graduate a week before my wedding, and work has also been a handful. I’ve had this thought on my mind a lot and decided it’s time to ask for advice. Im really scared that after all the time sweat and tears dedicated to this special day, It’ll go wrong. I am expecting mistakes / things not going as planned. It’s a given. But by going wrong, I mean I am afraid to be upset and have my own emotions ruin the day for me. any advice how I can not let any of it get to me? I can be really sensitive. Example, if it starts to rain and I can’t have my outdoor ceremony, how do focus on staying happy? Thank you in advance to all of you.

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Latest activity by Kenia, on April 28, 2021 at 11:43 AM

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Melanie · on April 28, 2021 at 12:55 AM
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My advice is to think about all the positive things with your life and talk to the people closest to you about your stress. I know whenever I was stressed, I would always talk it out with either my future husband, my bridesmaids, or my parents. Always remember you are getting married to the love of your life. They will love you no matter what happens with the ceremony.
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mrswinteriscoming · on April 28, 2021 at 1:12 AM
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I’m only getting married in December but if you want my advice (as previously given to me by a colleague) - do not let things bother you on your wedding day and that you let down your guard and actually enjoy yourself! If it rains, you’ll revert to your plan B. If your bridesmaids’ hair doesn’t turn out like they wanted, they’ll forget about it entirely by the time they’re hot and sweaty on the dancefloor. If your flower girls decide to lie flat across the aisle rather than walk down it, you’ll have some funny photos and stories to share with them when they’re older. If the chicken main is too dry, your friends will probably forget about it within days. You only get to live this day once and not everything will be perfect and that is ok. In the years to come you don’t want to be remembering your wedding for what didn’t happen, but rather for all the good things that happened!
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Kenia · on April 28, 2021 at 10:29 AM
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Thank you so much. I’ll definitely have to express my concerns and stress to people close to me!
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Kenia · on April 28, 2021 at 10:30 AM
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Thank you for your advice! I think lately I’m just too focused on what could go wrong to mentally prepare but it’s making things worse. Definitely, the “let my guard down” ... sounds right! Just go with the flow no matter what happens
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Eniale · on April 28, 2021 at 10:32 AM
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First: breathe.
Take it from me, I got married fifteen years ago: most of what happens that day, you will forget about. The things you don't forget, you will probably laugh about.
To try to keep it from ruining your day, think of some things that might go wrong and try to think of how they can be spun positively. For example:
Rain? Well, in many cultures, rain on the wedding day is good luck! Also, rain makes beautiful photos. Everything is glistening, there is an alluring mist lingering... plus, couples photos under big umbrellas are cute as heck. Your ceremony will be beautiful no matter where it is, outdoors or in!
Someone important shows up late? Hey, it happens. (My own husband was an HOUR late!) Late is better than never. Not to be a downer, but I actually filmed a wedding years ago where the bride's father died in a car accident on his way to the ceremony. Say it again with me: late is better than never.
Any details aren't exactly what you wanted - maybe they mixed up the appetizers, or put the wrong charger plates on the tables, or the DJ played the wrong song for your entrance. None of your guests know! As long as they are fed, comfortable, and you two seem to be enjoying yourselves, they'll be happy!
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Kenia · on April 28, 2021 at 10:37 AM
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I’ve been doing the “thinking about what Can go wrong” but totally skipped the spun to positivity. Thank you so so so much for this! Made me smile and feel at ease even if all of this is wrong.... I already know, if someone’s late... I’m going to think, late is better than never and remember that story. . I’m sorry for that family. A lot of times we take for granted!
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Melle · on April 28, 2021 at 11:20 AM
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You know i read a lot of BAM posts before my wedding day and it made me feel so relaxed and relieved. the reason being is that most BAM posts will tell you what went well and what didn't go well/expected. but the result was that regardless of what happened... it was still a happy beautiful day anyway. that made me feel relieved to know that despite things that don't go our way all the time, at the end of the day it didn't ruin overall happiness. it made me let go of my nerves for everything needing to go exactly perfect for that day.
no matter what happens, you'll win you'll get to marry your best friend/partner in life in front of supporting friends and family and get to celebrate that with them
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