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Adults Only Wedding - HELP Before Save the Dates.

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K, on July 11, 2017 at 7:00 PM

Our venue holds 160 guests. At first, that was perfect. We had 151 guests on our list to send invites to. However, we were not expecting my future in laws to invite an additional 12 people. This was before they offered to help with the costs of the wedding. Now, they are helping so we cannot turn down their 12 guest list. This is not including my mother & fathers guest list input, who are also helping us with some of the wedding.

I can knock 20 off of our guest list if I take kids off the list. (everyone on the list, whether they take up a seat or sit on their parents lap, counts in the final head count.) I guess its a fire hazard thing?? I don't know.

Were any of your guests upset that you didn't invite their children or decided to have an adults only wedding? I don't think my side of the family would mind at all. But i would like to prepare myself for dealing with FH's side if they do get upset.

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Super December 2017
Stephannie · on July 12, 2017 at 6:22 PM
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We're doing no kids! I know some people aren't happy about it, but as others have said, we've made our decision and that's that. I know I can't please everyone and someone will always have something to say no matter what decision we make. It's a nighttime wedding, on NYE. To me, children shouldn't be there anyways. I also am prepared for declines if people cannot come because their kids are not invited.
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Just Said Yes October 2017
Briana · on July 12, 2017 at 6:22 PM
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We're doing an adult-only wedding as well. So far, we have not had any complaints, and everyone seems to be very understanding. At the end of the day, it's all about you and your FH and what you two want.
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Beachy · on July 12, 2017 at 6:24 PM
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People will be upset and you just need to smile and nod. You know when you invite adults only you run the risk of people not coming. I am team kids, but I also believe you have that right at your wedding. I turned down a wedding with FHs family recently because I couldn't bring my daughter. He understood. The family offered to have some person I never met watch her (they are his SILs parents and were watching his brothers kids already). It's a 3 hours drive so we turned it down.
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VIP October 2017
AdventuresofRuth · on July 12, 2017 at 8:04 PM
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Adult only here - so far so good! I do understand that some people will not be able to make it because of that, but I am hopeful that most can. Just stand your ground.
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Super October 2017
stephanie · on July 12, 2017 at 9:27 PM
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What do YOU want? I think it's okay to do adults only if you really like that option, but if I had close friends who wouldn't be able to come to an adults only event and would have to decline, so that my FMIL could invite some of their friends I don't really know..... well...... that wouldn't really work for me.
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Expert July 2017
Chanta · on July 12, 2017 at 10:19 PM
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We are having an all adults wedding no kids.
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VIP December 2017
TheeOne2Love · on July 12, 2017 at 10:37 PM
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Adults only here too. Bridal party kids will be there momentarily
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Expert July 2020
mzlover4life · on July 12, 2017 at 10:58 PM
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I feel you should do what's best for you. The only kids that's going to be at my reception is the ones that's in the wedding(3) and we made an exception for his cousins that's coming in from out of town with her 2 kids that's it. Everyone else can be mad I don't care. everytime we look somebody having a baby so they can see the pictures later.
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