Adult only wedding?

No. You should not feel bad. Adult only weddings are very common. She's trying to guilt trip you into allowing her kid to come. But you have nothing to feel guilty about. Also dont give in, because then you have to give in to anyone that whines.

Nope. You shouldn’t feel bad at all. This is YOUR day. Too bad if they don’t like it. I’m all about kid free weddings. Mine is adults only as well.

No. 100% no. We are having a wedding that is also 18+. If it is what you want to do, your FH Aunt and FMIL should understand. In my opinion weddings are no places for 6 year olds anyway. At the wedding I was at on Sunday there were a few young children and their parents mentioned to us (the college friends) that at age 28-31 we should have been 'more mature' and set a 'better example' instead of drinking and dancing around in excess. Don't feel guilty making the decision that is best for you and your wedding!

Not. At. All. We're having a day wedding and still having no children except our flower girl and ring bearette (both my maid of honor's little girls). Unless you have the budget, room at your venue, and a kid friendly plan, it is perfrectly reasonable to have no children there. Definitely do not feel bad - these days everyone should understand that there are many reasons for having an adult only wedding. If we added kids to ours it would double our guest list!

You should not feel bad! We are having an adult only wedding as well and if people have feelings about that we haven’t heard them yet. There are a lot of kids in our families and we just can’t accomodate all of the chairs. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your choice! Stick to your guns!

The only child who will be at our wedding is FHs niece, who will be our flower girl. My FSIL is actually bringing a sitter with her, so she and her husband can enjoy the reception and not worry about getting their daughter to bed, etc.

Ours is a destination wedding in Vegas, very much adult themed and we intentionally did not invite kids.

Don't feel bad!! Props to you for setting an age limit and sticking to it. Most people say some kids can come and some kids can't, which I think is rude, in my opinion.

It is your wedding and you set clear guidelines so that everyone is being treated equally. It is okay to feel a little badly about anyone upset by this or inconvenienced or if someone can't attend because of it... but that is it. You shouldn't be made to feel guilty. That is not fair for anyone to put that on you.

I did the same thing and heard complaining from my MIL for a bit but when both my FH and I stood together strongly against it there was no further question about it. The reality is that my venue is on top of a hill over looking the valley, beautiful however, if parents decided to let their kids run around unsupervised ( which sadly can happen) a child could easily end up injured, or worse. Not only that but in reality none of my guests have complained, its always someone else complaining for them because all of the adults I've mentioned it to are super excited to get a night out. I also feel like people have to respect this and every once in a while you have to be an adult and if you just can't make it because of a request like this then just man-up and do it without crying. We know you have children, we totally love them but please do this for us, on our day.

Just have an courthouse wedding

Definitely don’t feel bad or guilty! I don’t anticipate anyone giving us grief for having no kids but there’s no amount of guilt that would make me give in. The last thing I want on our wedding day is a bunch of kids running around, whining, making messes, interrupting the ceremony, etc.

You shouldn’t feel guilty because you haven’t done anything wrong. Plenty of couples choose to have an adults only weddings. It’s a very normal thing to do. Ask your aunt if she wants to pay for all the other kids you will have to invite if you allow her to bring hers, maybe that will make her back off, lol.

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There’s no need to go to such extremes.

View Quoted Comment This is ridiculous. What a harsh reaction for something that is so extremely common.

OP - do it! Stick to your guns. No children weddings are SO common and not at all rude. FH and I will also be having a no child wedding.

Nope. I wouldn’t feel bad. Kids can ruin weddings so easily and they’re just an extra cost.

Don't feel bad it's your wedding and you should do it as you please. You can't make everyone happy and the fact that your not allowing your own family to bring kids I think that's fair. Now if you allowed some kids to come and told everyone else no then you would be in the wrong but if you aren't letting any kids go period then you have nothing to feel guilty about. Just keep in mind this may cause some people to not show up because it may be hard for people to find babysitters that will babysit the whole duration of the wedding.

Don’t feel guilty! Do what is right for you and your FH

I have kids and don't understand this mentality that they should be invited to everything always. You absolutely didn't do anything wrong. No one, of any age, is entitled to an invitation to anything. Would your FH's aunt complain to her boss that her child was not invited to an evening work event? Probably not. Don't feel bad or guilty. If she says she won't come if her daughter can't go, then tell her you'll miss her.

Do NOt feel bad about this!!! There were 30 kids on our list, and 75 adults. No way Jose!! So we are only doing children in and off the bridal party- my MOH just had a baby in April, and FH sisters are 17. My aunt tried to bully her mom and my dad into guilting me into making her 10 year old daughter that I’ve met once to be my flower girl so she can attend- even after announcing we were not having a flower girl. Then said aunt flipped out and said she wouldn’t come if her daughter couldn’t, because who would watch her. My dad finally saw that she was being absolutely ridiculous, because there were several options, as the father AND 18 y/o sister are staying at home, and our venue offers childcare. I’m not doing that mess. Don’t feel bad AT ALL

If kids aren't your thing, I wouldn't worry too much about this! Adult-only weddings are common and during the ceremony/reception, it's less for you to stress about. It stinks when you get grief from other family members or from your MIL, but stick to your gut and don't let those people get to you.