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Savvy October 2021

Adult only wedding?

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Briana, on August 11, 2020 at 11:53 PM

So my fiancé and I are struggling (more like me) with figuring out what to do as far as no kids allowed. We’d prefer no kids however there is a 13 year old and a 17 year old (his cousins) that we know would be okay to go. We’d love it if they attended. I even toyed around with the idea of letting a couple more kids come that are his cousins with the age range being from 6-9 because we had them at our engagement party and they had fun and were well behaved. However his aunt just has a baby and the baby would be 1 by that time (I’d feel pretty weird saying you’re two kids can come but not your 1 year old) so now we’re back to square one of no kids but wanting the 13 and 17 year olds there. I’m at a loss. Any advice?

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Super September 2020
Leanne · on August 12, 2020 at 2:53 PM
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We did adults only, except for the six kids who are in my wedding party: four flower girls and two ringbearers. I think if you start to make exceptions for people outside of the wedding party feelings might get hurt. But it’s totally up to you and your day.
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Daijha · on August 12, 2020 at 3:22 PM
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My fiancé’s sister had an adult only wedding- she did have a child there but it was her god daughter and she was the flower girl, I believe she was 11. She got a lot of backlash from angry family members for that along with many other things. But like she said, the day is about groom and bride and what they want. Stick to that and you won’t feel bad about any decision you make.
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Devoted December 2021
Asia · on August 12, 2020 at 3:26 PM
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Exactly what we are doing.

I Would say lap babies are fine but ppl would have to be respectful and KNOW their kids! I’ve seen too many wedding with crying babies in the ceremony or kids not knowing when to just sit down.
If you choose not to, Just say “though we would love to invite everyone we simply cannot. We are choosing to have an Adults-only event so everyone can enjoy themselves while helping us celebrate our union.”
Plus ppl should be understanding because weddings are expensive and 30 plate for a kid to mess over is a no-go for me and all the running around. Lol. I would like for my family with small children to be able to enjoy themselves without having to play hide and seek.
Only kids there are IN the wedding. This is on our wedding site.
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VIP January 2020
Vicky · on August 12, 2020 at 9:20 PM
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Kids are not an all-or-nothing any more than any other guest group, and you don't need an age rule. Invite who you want to invite to your wedding by name on the invitation; leave people who you don't want to invite off of the invitation. That being said, you shouldn't invite some of the children of a family but not others, so I'd just not invite the younger kids you talked about if you don't want the 1-year-old there (but be aware that the parents of the kids may decline the invitation if they can't bring the 1-year-old).
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