Adult-Only wedding: FI's Aunt/family angry about their 2 kids not coming. All other guests understand 18 rule

We had this happen as well with my husband cousin and at first I told her to bring her kids but nobody else because she didn't have any one to watch them and then she took a notch further and wanted every one to bring there kids to feel comfortable and that's when it it hit the fan !!!! The point at the end of the day you can please everybody and its all about you and your soon to be spouse I had to learn that the hard way but do what makes you happy

I second the poster who said don't budge about this. No kids means no kids. Very simple. Also, no one on here should really be telling OP that she should invite her siblings and that they're old enough to behave- that's not your business nor was it a question in the OP.

I am having an adult only wedding stand your ground. NO KIDS

I feel some of you didnt read the part where she says the kids cling to her like cling wrap and that is one of the reasons she is okay without them being there.

They are WAY too young to care that they will not be there, and the relationship should be just fine. It is not as if she is leaving her own children out FFS.

I am sticking to my guns with this one.

YOU make the invitation list as this is YOUR wedding. If they do not like it, they do not come and can sit around and complain about it when you are enjoying your wedding.

I am sick and tired of people with children feeling that their children are entitled to an invitation everywhere! These are 8-9 year olds, not newborns and they have been given well enough notice.

Especially cousins....that you probably are not even remotely close with.

If they say that they will not come...then simply state, I am sorry you will be missing the wedding, but thank you for letting us know.

People...it is rude to try and dictate the invite list for another bride's wedding!

Our wedding is adults only as well. We haven't heard any complaints other than FMIL who wants to bring her husbands 4 year old grandchild with them. She lives in FL & we're in OR. The child has another grandparent & his parents down there that he can stay with but they are choosing to bring him anyway. He is also NOT a well behaved child, from what we've heard from FSIL who recently visited them. We've never met him. They are also not paying for any part of the wedding. Child is still not invited & FMIL's husband will be staying at the hotel with him & FMIL will be at the wedding. Don't make exceptions.

Stick to your plan. Do not be emotionally manipulated by anyone. You have the perfect response, which is: "My sisters aren't even invited" (although I would seriously rethink that. Your sisters won't always be three and seven years old. They will grow up, sooner than you thought possible, and when they want to look at your wedding album, they'll ask why they aren't in it).

Let them be mad. They can't make it? They will be missed. Moving on....

Stand your ground, you're right on this.

Tough noogies. No is no.

I was struggling with that too. I am mainly planning my wedding on my own with very little input from FH. I let him know that our wedding is going to be an adult affair and only children who are in the wedding will be at the reception. I dont want to see a bunch of kids running around my reception!