Adult Only reception

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We dont want kids at our wedding, simply because it would cost an extra $2000 if they all came and we opted to hire a live band for the reception instead. Once we sent save the dates people called to ask our thoughts on kids and so far no one seems to have a problem with it - I think the concept of an adult only reception is commonplace enough that we don't need to be so worried about how we phrase it. You are hosting, I think its only fair that you get to say who comes and if someone is going to let that ruin your friendship than I would question the integrity of the friendship.

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I tried to do word of mouth I told my cousin I was only having kids who are in the wedding at the reception which is 2 flower girls. She's still talking to her mother about bringing a 2 year old to the wedding reception

I wrote this on our wedding website: Though we both love little ones, this will be a late-night adults-only affair.

Our wedding doesn't even start until most kids' bedtime and most people we talked to wanted a night away from the kids (with one exception).

I recently went to a wedding where the details included with the invite stated "Adult reception immediately following ceremony" I thought it was fine and completed perfect.

I recently went to a wedding where the details included with the invite stated "Adult reception immediately following ceremony" I thought it was fine and completed perfect.

I just put adults only on our website so the out of towners dont have any doubt but did not put on the invites. I only addressed the adults invited. We have had a couple complaints about the no kids but we just dont have the space so unfortunately its get a babysitter or dont come

I thought of it this way: I would not have sent a wedding invitation to someone I was not inviting to our wedding with a note included with the invitation telling them they are not invited.

The best you can do here is address the invitation to the adults only and list the number of seats on the rsvp card. If they try to add their kids then call them and inform them that your invitation did not include their children and you understand if this would require them to decline. Honestly we did not have one guest try to include their children in their response.

Depending on the venue, children may not be as welcome. We are having ours at a golf course and having children running out of the pavilion, while there are still golfers, seems inappropriate and I'm not playing babysitter. Some parents think that's okay for children to run around while they're cutting loose(and not watching their children.) adults night out!

I am having an adult reception only. Many members of my family are coming from out of town. What I did was call up the specific family members that I was worried about and have a quick convo with them about it. Convos go a long way. I also have it listed on my wedding invitation. It's better to be clearer with people rather then being inconspicuous with the information. It is what it is. Most people underand.

Ours is adult only and we aren't announcing it anywhere. We addressed the invites with the names of those invited.

We have addressed the no children allowed on our website and insert with our invitation. A lot people say it's rude but everyone needs to makes sure they got the point so having it on an individual card with the invitation is not a bad thing nor rude. Bringing kids when kids were not invited is rude.

I say do whatever you want! Forget if it's rude or not rude or what are my guests going to think... if you're paying for it, you make the rules of YOUR wedding!! Good luck!!

OH, Joe. Sigh.

Since you already took steps to let them know via your site and invitations, I think you can only rely on word of mouth.

My Save the Dates and Wedding Webiste have been released 6 months early due to my expat life. On my wedding site in the RSVP section it says please note that this is an Adults only event.

I'm an international teacher and the list of 100+ invitees have at least 60 kids amongst them. There is no way I want them present on my special day! Accommodations, food, drinks, that's a another wedding to pay for!!! No Kids Allowed only niece and stepson!

1 star users are out in full force! Its scary!!! Unless you are a wedding planner and have planned 100+ weddings, please keep your insanely ridiculous opinions to yourselves until you learn the etiquette rules! Just because some of you have no problem with coming off as rude and tacky, please don't try to influence the ones who actually are asking a question because they care about how they treat their guest

Donya is this your invite or the note posted with your RSVP card? Either way I don't find it rude! There are a lot of people that don't read the wedding website. There are also a number of people who will still bring a their kids because they are from out of town.

Chelsea, it's your day put a sweet saying or be blunt...Adult Reception, but make sure you're happy with the end result. It's great to get advice but it's another to let others "rules of etiquette" dictate your day.

I'm have shots instead of a champagne toast, why because I don't drink champagne and it's MY DAY! It's the only thing that is truly what you want because all the money spent is so others can have a party.

I was thinking the same way on how to explain my guests that there won't be children allowed at the wedding. I have done it by word of mouth but with my family you have to consistently repeat it to them because they won't get it the first time so I'm putting it in the nicest way on my invites and continually telling them all about it. I appreciate the advice from others as well since I'm still deciding.