Adult Only reception

We are. We are strict on it as well.

*Never* put who is NOT invited on an invitation. That is rude AF.

This is like the third question today about this.

You don't put it on the invite.

You invite specific people on the invite and prepare to let people know that adding random people isn't allowed, via a phone call when they do.

An embossed card saying a rude thing doesn't make it any less rude. Nor does script.

Kids are at open bar weddings all the time. The bartenders just won't serve them. Problem solved.

I am having an adult only reception and I've tried to get the word out to everyone but I am still putting the number of seats reserved on the rsvps . They'll get the idea

We invited certain adults. We also lined up sitters on site that came highly recommended. We spread by word of mouth the fact that children weren't invited and sitters are available on site.

Three kids crashed anyway. I just rolled with it that day.

Chelsea,

Weddings are like names "there are no rules!" It's your day therefore I feel you do as you please. I don't find anything inappropriate about the manner in which you choose to announce that you would prefer no kids at again "YOUR" event. Whether you place it on the invite, the RSVP card or send out a smoke signal LOL as long as it clear to your guest that it is an adult only event.

I am certainly with you on the idea of an adult only event. There's nothing worst than having someone's baby whaling in the middle of trying to express your love through vows to the person you love on YOUR day. This day is about you and your husband to be, not a playground for your guest children.

Just my thoughts....

Though I understand that somethings may come off as rude or impolite, can everyone stop acting as if they're the expert who've established all of these invitation rules? LOL...

Also, you're telling someone how rude they are, while being extremely rude yourselves. Hipocrisy at its finest.

There are rules if you don't want to piss off everyone you know.

If all else fails, throw the kids in the bushes, WW style.

It doesn't make any sense to put people who are NOT invited on an invite. The whole point of an invite is to invite people. It's just common sense.

Haha. LMAO. Do these double ringers live in bubbles? How do they make it through life if they think this shit is rude?

1) No one is being rude.

2) There are established rules - etiquette.

@Kamoy - The proper etiquette is to address the people invited, not to highlight the people not invited. If you would like to look crass then go right ahead. I've received invites that were just for FH and I, not including our son and known right away to book childcare. If I received Donay's invite. I would decline and not send a gift. It's gauche.

@Kamoy:

Hypocrisy. You know that this very site has a spell check yes?

Also, maybe, JUST MAYBE, the people on here know more, because they might be further along in the planning or have done more research or have already been through it.

Someone came here and asked a question. because they did not know. A few people who know answered it. Just because it's not the answer you like, doesn't mean it's not valid.

"Weddings are like names "there are no rules!" It's your day therefore I feel you do as you please."

I got married 10 days ago, and I can tell you that in no way was it just MY day. Please don't offend your guests, who may I remind you, are your family and friends.

"it's your day" really makes me want to vomit. Honestly. It's disgusting.

Guests aside, where is FH in all of this?

This day is not to celebrate your crowning as Head Pretty Princess Ruler of All Who Must Be Worshipped for a full week.

This day is to gather the people you love most to celebrate the fact that you've found a love so fulfilling, so wonderful, that it makes you want to dedicate yourself and your life, to it.

It's a celebration of love. Not a celebration of YOU.

If it's really your day, elope. Don't subject your nearest and dearest to your shitacular tacky ideas.

IAMHER_TW...doesn't TW stand for something around here?

I've never understood the "my day" thing. I loved my wedding day, but in no way was it about ME.

Getting ready was about spending time with my mom, sister and bridesmaids. If it was MY day I would have thrown my dress on in 5 minutes by myself, but it was important to spend time with the important women in my life.

Pictures was about getting every combination of the family and bridal party FOR our parents and family members to have those memories.

Our ceremony yes, was about US - my husband AND I - but honestly doing it in front of 115 people was for our families. We would have been happy at a courthouse.

Dinner, dancing, cocktail hour - was a thank you to our guests and their happiness and enjoyment was top of my mind the entire night. When people asked if I was having fun, I kept saying "Yea, I hope everyone is having a good time."

Calling your wedding "YOUR DAY" is so childish and selfish I can't believe you won't allow kids at your wedding, because you are acting like one.

IAMHER....yeah, there are rules. It's "your day" if you elope. Once you have one guest?

There are rules. It's called etiquette.