Adult only affair--Issues with future MOI

Yes ma'am, some individuals in my family had a fit. It was a hard decision but it will all work out.

Only kids we are inviting are our nieces n nephews. All of our friends are in their 40s n we are not inviting their kids...

The whole kids or no kids thing seems to cause lots of drama for every wedding. It is in mine. Kids are invited, but only immediate and extended family kids are expected. It is hard to convey to people who aren't family that bringing a kid isn't appropriate. It could get out of control!

Your invitations have already been sent out with the phrase "adults only affair", so stick with that!

Did you invite all your nieces and nephews or choose certain nieces and nephews to be in the wedding and are just inviting those kids?

I'm having an adults only affair as well. Tell your FMIL to kick rocks. If you don't want kids there then no kids are allowed. Its your day.

I'm currently in the middle of a brawl with family over this. We are having adults only. My sister has known for 10 months. She just had a baby and is now saying he HAS to come. FH has a ton of kids on his side, so it would turn into a ton of kids so we are standing firm. She is giving me an ultimatum now! Sorry, if you're willing to miss your own sister's wedding, that speaks volumes about YOU. I'm not changing my plans!

We're team kids (to us it's only logical since as Catholics we see the raising of children as part of the purpose of marriage, so it would seem weird to exclude them), but as long as it's made clear and as long as your okay with some guests not coming because of it.

One possible compromise might be to do what a friend of mine did. She excluded kids but booked a conference room at the host hotel and hired a daycare/babysitting service to watch the kids at the couple's expense. That way everyone could attend, but they could have their kid free wedding.

I'm team no kids and only 1 couple tried to push us on this. Luckily, my H and I were firm on our decision everytime they tried. When we said "well, we'll miss you guys at the wedding but we're not changing our mind" the couple magically found a babysitter less than three mins later. Stay firm on not changing your mind and make sure your FH is on the same page about what you want.

Why did you send your invites out four months in advance? You had a good amount of bad etiquette between that and writing no kids on the invite. I don't blame her for saying something, even though I'm totally team no kids at weddings and we didn't invite any to ours.

Did she mean that writing "adult only affair" on your invites was in bad taste?

We simply did not include the children's names on the invitations.

While I think you're perfectly justified in wanting an adults only wedding, putting it on the invitations was in bad taste.