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Savvy May 2020

Addressing Save The Dates & Invites: Unmarried Couples

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Lakota, on February 19, 2019 at 4:22 PM

We have some people on our guest list that are in long term relationships with people we're not necessarily close with or really talk to. They also live with their S/O's. Of course the couple is invited. My question is how do I address those invitations since they're not married? Do I address it to...

Do I address it to the person that one of us are actually close with and say "and guest"?
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Do I address it to both of them by name?

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VIP June 2019
Danielle K · on February 19, 2019 at 4:45 PM
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Most unmarried couples that we are inviting, we knew both sides very well so we just stuck to what we thought (but apparently I was mistaken) to be tradition.
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Dedicated April 2019
Erica · on February 19, 2019 at 4:54 PM
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If it's a long term relationship and you've met the S.O., I'd definitely put their name on the invitation. I know when my FH and I were still fairly early on (maybe a little less than a year?) in our relationship, we got invited to a wedding of one of his friends and my name was on it, too. It meant the world to me. You can really make someones day by including them.
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karen · on February 19, 2019 at 5:01 PM
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STDs are not invites, just notice that an invite will be coming. Of course, the actual invite should have the name of the invited guest and his or her spouse/fiancé/SO (however you define that). Right now, OP has to be ready to tell invited guests, will they get their SO, date or whatever.
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Sherry · on February 19, 2019 at 5:05 PM
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We addressed ours to both people. If they were married, Mr and Mrs Smith and if they were dating, we used both of their full names, John Smith and Jane Doe.
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Savvy May 2020
Lakota · on February 21, 2019 at 6:27 PM
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Thank you all so much for your advice. I have another question regarding this matter. I have some friends who are in serious relationships, but the two do not live together. Again, not really close to their S/O's. Do I just send one invitation (to the friend) and put both names on it? Or should I send two separate invitations to them individually?
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