Addressing Fbil's save the date

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Oh god no, that would be horrible lol. My fiance and I live together and got individual std's and invitations like a month ago and we were both so offended. Especially since we are close with the couple, like really guys?!? We've been together 7 years lol

Not true, just send one to your FBIL's house and send it to both. You aren't going to invite her if they break up, she doesn't need her own invite.

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Completely agree. If they break up it doesn't sound like OP would still want to invite her independently.

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THIS. If you send separate invitations and they break up, she is still her own guest that can bring a plus one, and he is too. We've all seen the DRAMA posts on that. FMIL is incorrect. Perhaps explaining this to her would make more sense to her.

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I would address her by name on your FBIL's invite. Even though they don't live together, it's his girlfriend and I feel like they should be invited together.

Okay, let me remind you first that this is YOUR wedding. If you feel like inviting her specifically, then add her to the invitation list. If you think you should just invite her as an addition to your fiances brother, then do so. It's ultimately your decision on how she's invited.

I agree with those above.. if they were not dating, she wouldn't be invited. Therefore, the FBIL gets the invite.

I'd put her name on the invite to be nice. If anything does happen between them before the wedding it could be as simple as him RSVP-ing as just him.

My personal FBIL has a GF i really like, but still wouldn't be invited if they broke up. If they broke up, we would evidently know about it considering the immediate family relation. We would be sure to make it known to him that, of course, he can still bring a plus one if he wants. I'd be willing to exchange on name on my seating chart or place cards if that happens!

That does not matter. When you know the identity of someone who is invited to be with a person they are in a relationship of such long-standing, you send her any invitation things in her own name. You need not send her a save. Because if they broke up, you would not send her an invitation at all. You hardly know her. But if she is still with him when you are addressing invitations, she is not an anonymous plus one. She gets her own invitation in her own name at whatever her then home address is. Presumably you would never expect her to give you a second gift for the wedding, so you would leave her off any lists of closest friends and family that you give any shower hostess.

Thanks guys! Her name has been put on his invite, and it will be sent to him.

I would send an invitation to the FBIL only. If you are accounting for a plus one with most of your guests then why send a separate invitation? Let him RSVP with a plus one if he wants to bring a date; if not then so be it. If they do not live together why would you send an invitation to a woman you barely know?