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Just Said Yes May 2021

Addressing Envelopes to Family

Jenn, on May 12, 2020 at 2:15 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
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I'm having some difficulty with figuring out how to address an envelope to my FH's family. We're having a more intimate, informal wedding, so we are inviting our close family and friends, and anyone's significant other who is married, engaged, or has been in a long term relationship.

The envelop I'm having trouble figuring out is a family that includes: Husband, Wife, and 4 (adult) kids. One of the kids lives with her fiancé, so I plan to send them their own invitation. The remaining 3 kids live with Husband and Wife at home, but one of them has a long-term boyfriend who we plan to invite. I wanted to send one invitation to the family as a whole, but I'm not sure how I could include the Boyfriend's name? I want to be specific so that it's clear who is invited. My initial thought was:

The Smith Family

Husband, Wife, Kid 1, Kid 2, Kid 3, & Boyfriend

1234 Smith Lane

But then I thought that it would be weird to include the Boyfriend under the family name. So, my next thought was to send two invitations. One to Husband, Wife, Kid 1 & Kid 2. Then a second to Kid 3 & Boyfriend.

Has anyone come across this situation, and how did you handle it? And what are your thoughts?


  • V
    Master July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    My husband's two cousins are adults and they live with their parents still. The one cousin's fiancee lives with them as well, but the other cousin's girlfriend does not live with them. I sent three different invitations. I sent one to the parents, one to the one cousin with his name and his fiancee's name and one to the other cousin with his name and his girlfriend's name.
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  • Nicole
    Rockstar November 2020
    Nicole ·
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    Typically, any adult children who still live at home should have their own invitation. However, if you're really against sending separate invites to each person, then I think the best bet is to include the children without significant others on the parent's invite and send their sibling and her boyfriend a separate invite.

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  • Stacey
    Dedicated May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    I know invitations are expensive, but if they are an adult couple, I think they should receive their own invitation.

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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    I would just address it the way you have it.
    I wouldnt send 2 Seperate invites to the same house
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  • Taran
    Dedicated September 2020
    Taran ·
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    For kids that still lived with the parents (or don't have a significant other attending) I blanketed them all under one invitation so it reads The "x" Family. If there is a significant other I've given them their own invitation even if they live at the same address as the parents.

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  • J
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    Jenn ·
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    Thank you all so much for your input! Who would've thought that addressing envelopes would be so stressful Smiley xd .

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