Addressing an invite for a same sex couple

Why would you ask her? What would you do if a hetero couple had different last names??

ETA: Do they even have different last names, or have they changed them to be the same? Your example would imply they have the same last name.

I did my Aunts as Mrs. Her Name and Mrs. Her Name because they are married, but neither changed their name. ETA: That was for the STDs. I plan to do the same on the invitations.

Do they have the same last name?

We invited a few gay couples to our wedding and had formal addresses. We did Mrs. Susan Smith and Mrs. Laura Johnson for those who had different last names and Mr. Charles and Robert Johnson for same last name.

For formal addresses, I wouldn't leave out the Mrs.

I have two female friends that were married about 2 years ago. When I addressed their save the date to them it was Mrs. X and Mrs Y. as they both kept their last names. You don't have to have the Mrs. in there unless you are doing very formal wedding/invitations.

I would say, if they share the same name, address it mrs. Jane and jan smith... If not mrs. Jane smith and mrs. Jan Rogers. I'd maybe ask... I mean I have no same sex couples and I still called a few people to see how they wanted to be addressed, I get but also don't get why that's offensive, it's tricky. But as a person is rather someone called to make sure than to just pull something out of their bum

I'm thinking instead of Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith, have Mrs. and Mrs. Jane and Jan Smith. Or like you said, just ask what she would prefer.

I listed the "Mrs. Jane and Mrs. Jan Smith" when they had the same name. "Mrs. Jane Smith and Mrs. Jan Rogers" for different names. I would definitely give both of the their title.

Sorry I completely forgot I posted this. Yes, they have the same last name.

Ms. and Ms. is fine.