Addressing a soon to be married couple

I would do something cute like " The Future Mr and Mrs Smith"

I would address them as an unmarried couple: Mr_________ & Miss _________.

Edited: Missing word

^ That is what I was going to suggest.

I have a friend getting married less than a month after me and that is how I am going to address her invite.

I'd address like an unmarried couple, like @FutureMrsCrane suggested. That's how ours was addressed from our friends that got married a few months before us.

As an unmarried couple, but I think the woman is supposed to go first.

I had a couple that the invites went out like 4 days before their wedding. I addressed them as unmarried. I was going to change the RSVP online to reflect her married name but they RSVPd before I got the chance.

Thank you everyone for your feedback

Lol my friends/family have sent me birthday and holiday cards with Mr. and Mrs. (almost) Smith!" or "The future Mr. and Mrs. Smith!" ever since we got engaged. We are casual people so if it were me, I would do something fun. If it's more formal, I would stick to their unmarried names. Do you know if the bride will be changing her name after the wedding?

I know it may not be correct, but I love getting mail addressed to "The Future Mr. and Mrs. ___!"

If someone had addressed us as the "The Future Mr and Mrs F..." before we were married, I would have vomited in their face! To some people it may be cute, but to others it is offensive (particularly if you don't know whether either party plans to change their last name).

Also, an unmarried woman is usually listed first, but if neither is a woman (or they both are), I would just order them based on who you know better

I've been addressed as "the future mrs m" on 2 invitations and 5 save the dates. Definitely did not make me want to vomit in anyone's face, I thought it was a sweet gesture they remembered my upcoming wedding while planning theirs.

I like what @ HereComeTheYorks suggested.

Yeah I have been very happy to be addressed as the future mr and mrs ... I would never consider that an insult and if you don't plan on changing your name you can plan on being continually upset by this for a long time because many people will address you that way whether you change your name or not, people are not intentionally insulting you or demeaning you and people need to not get so bent out of shape over things that were meant to be nice

Our Friend addressed our invites to "The Future Mr & Mrs ___" I though it was so sweet & it was really nice to get something in the mail as Mr & Mrs

That was a bit extreme, don't you think?

You do not address it as "The future Mr. & Mrs___". Just no. It is presumptuous as you don't know if the woman will go by that last name. They should be addressed separately with their own (current) names.

What Emily said. You should use Future Mrs Crane's suggestion Mr__ & Miss ___ (or Ms)