Addresses... Im never going to get them :(

There's no one else you can go through? Like friends of the family maybe. Or if worse case scenario just scan the invite and email it to them lol. At least that way it went to them .. Best of luck to you hon

His mom's side hated me for a while and some of them still do because they thought I was a gold digger and whatnot and they are almost all out of town so I really dont know. Its so ridiculous and kind of immature.

Well don't beat yourself up over it hon. If they want to be rude and not welcoming with your wedding then I say screw them and invite people you want to be there .. You deserve to be happy

Thanks I just dont want the crap after if they dont send me their addresses lol

I'm in a similar boat, except we've never been on bad terms. I've just never met more then a handful of his mom's side, and those I did meet I met once maybe twice. MIL still has given me no names or anything, and DH isn't close to that side of his family anyway so we're just gonna invite his Marine Corps buddies and not worry about his mom's relatives.

Can you email them directly from facebook...if they are on there???

I am having the same issue but it has nothing to do with them not liking me we all get along beautifully I just cannot seems to get ahold of ANYONE from my fiances moms side...ARG gonna try for a few more days but at some point they either need to respond or they come off our guest list!

My FH's dad is passed. His mother is not in his life. Last year at Christmas we went to a dinner with his family and they invited my parents. My mom brought an address book with her and asked his family to pass it around so she could make sure he had all the addresses of his family. We were not engaged. A couple weeks later his aunt gave us a notebook with everyones addresses and phone numbers in it. It has now worked out great with wedding planning.

I think that's really simple.

a) Why isn't your FH dealing with it?

b) You don't have addresses = they don't get STDs. They can hate you all they want. But it's going to be worse if you keep on asking that they do something that's ultimately in their interest.

c) Set a deadline. If you don't get addresses by date X, you will have to order STDs only for guests whose address you've got. And be done with it.

FH is dealing with it but he works 5-6 days a week 12/hrs a day and on the weekends we race. He has asked his mom about six times and she always says she needs to get it from work. He really doesnt have time but I know thats a poor excuse.

I have asked the ones who dislike me once and his mom, who is ok with me, twice.

I really think you've done plenty. Set a deadline, politely but firmly, and move on.

I agree with you Mrs. S, I just wish I could include them. They are his family and I have a feeling its going to make him upset if they dont come.

I understand. But at the end of the day, there's only so much you can do. You're trying really hard to include them. But if there's no feedback, you can only push so much.

So true. Darned if you do darned if you dont kinda lol

I think some FMIL just don't want to hand out addresses! Mine just never got around to it so I went to her house and grabbed the address book and wrote down all the addresses in it.

Worst case just email them and let them know you & FH are expanding your address book and you're missing theirs! That's what I did for the mystery addresses lol

Do you have their names? Have you tried 411ing their addresses? You could either do it online or by phone...

I only have his grandmother and aunts names. I need his grandfathers address and whoever else in his family I havent met. I wish I could just go grab her address book but she keeps it at work.

I only have his grandmother and aunts names. I need his grandfathers address and whoever else in his family I havent met. I wish I could just go grab her address book but she keeps it at work.

I have been asking my FH to get me addresses for his side of the family since June of this year. We are supposed to be sending out our STDs this month but I can't because no one on his side wants to get me the info. This is both of our second marriages and his first one everyone claims they never got an invite. I guess I know why. I called my mom on the phone and within 5 minutes we had addresses to every family member I was inviting. I am close to his side not receiving them a second time. It doesn't take that long to get addresses. I also know how you feel about not wanting to keep asking when they don't like you. His family doesn't like me either and I really believe that is why they are dragging there feet.

Cant you call them? Stop going through her if she isnt helping or tell her if we do not have them by Saturday, your family cannot be invited (probably have FH do this so you dont come off bitchy lol).