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Jenna
Savvy August 2020

Additional letter w/ invitations

Jenna, on June 9, 2020 at 6:01 PM Posted in Planning 0 8
Getting ready to send out our wedding invitations but I want to include a separate piece of paper with info on it like how the ceremony is kid friendly but the reception is 18+, food options, directions from the ceremony to the reception, and that we'll keep them updated as to any changes because of COVID. How should I start it? Do I write a formal intro or just start listing the information? Has anyone else done something like this?

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Latest activity by Veronica, on June 9, 2020 at 6:39 PM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    The food options would have been on the rsvp if you needed them to choose an entree or to designate dietary restrictions.

    usually people do another insert for a map of directions as well. i did that! except i printed mine in the back of the main invite so i can save on paper.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I honestly think that I would avoid this. It would be pretty rude to welcome kids to the ceremony, but tell them that they have to leave for the reception. You're essentially telling the parents that they must also leave because no one is going to take their kids home and then come back. If you don't want them there for half of the event, don't have them there at all.

    If you're having any type of buffet, it's not necessary to list food options, but you can ask for dietary restrictions on your RSVP card. If you're having a plated meal, you would ask for entree selections on the RSVP card as well.

    As far as COVID-19, I would assume that most people know that all upcoming plans may be changed depending on the circumstances. If you want to let them know that you're being mindful of the situation, maybe your wedding website would be a good place for that.

    Some people include a details insert that includes directions, accommodations, etc. I've found that most people just include that on their wedding website these days, but the vendor that you ordered your invitations from should have coordinating detail inserts to match your invitation suite.

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  • Jenna
    Savvy August 2020
    Jenna ·
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    You make a good point, I didnt think of it that way. The only reason we dont want anyone under 18 at the reception is because it's at a Brewery as too where the ceremony is at a Botanical Gardens that every guest gets almost 3 hours to access and adventure. We just didnt think it would be right to have kids at the Brewery. I didnt make or share my wedding website, not really into it but I can just contact everyone if need be.
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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
    Renee ·
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    You can do whatever you want as it is not rude to uninvite children to an adults only party afterwards it would just be more chaotic, if anything for you to get final numbers. Just be prepared for guests to leave before the reception or not show up at all. As far as the letter, have you thought about a wedding website that has all of that information posted for guests to see?
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    Normally these things are handled with invitation inserts and it's very common. However, you may want to reconsider inviting kids to the ceremony, but not the reception. Where do you expect them to go? Why invite them at all?

    If it's a food selection you're looking for, then it needs to be on the RSVP so you get it back. If it's a buffet, it would be odd to tell them what the food will be. I would find that weird if I got that in an invite.

    If I were you, I'd do one insert with directions and a COVID sentence or two, and refer them to your website, where you can have a note about kids, whatever you decide.

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  • Jenna
    Savvy August 2020
    Jenna ·
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    I'm never got into the wedding website thing, but I could just make a quick on for that purpose.
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    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Food options are listed on the reply card. Directions have their own card. Be prepared for many upset guests scrambling to find a place to take their kids after the ceremony on the way to the reception. Updating people is done by word of mouth via text or email.

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    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I'm definitely pro wedding website. While it might not be your thing, it is something that I think your guests would really appreciate. It is one place they can go to get all of the necessary information about your wedding without having to remember that you sent a letter and where they put it. They are also very simple to make. I actually had a lot of fun designing mine. Your website can also include a lot more information than an insert can and I think your guests are more likely to look at than a lengthy letter. Also, it's a great place to link your registry as it is considered rude to include your registry info on your invitations.

    I think inviting children only to the ceremony could be difficult for your guests with children because what would they do with their child(ren) once the ceremony is over? Also, the drinking age is 21 so wouldn't it be 21+?

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