About 90 days to go- have to re-do everything!

I haven't and I can only imagine the stress you must go through. I am sure your children will appreciate better living arrangements and that's really all that matters. You can always plan a reception a few months later.

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You know we thought about doing that but don't really want to. We're bumping up against the holidays at that point. It's a subsequent marriage for both of us and we've both done the big shabangs and whatnot. I know from experience that planning something after it happens just doesn't have the same feel to it, ya know?

I am so sorry about your initial plans not being made a reality however silver linings, you now have your kids 💘 my FH’s brother unexpectedly passed away in May. We had originally picked a day in May to get married but out of respect of his family we moved our date to October. We will be having a small elopement ceremony as we don’t want the big traditional wedding but it’s pushed our date back 5 months. Courthouse will be lovely and you can always marry to the church once you are financially and emotionally ready!

I can't imagine having to deal with that all at once. A courthouse wedding could be just as beautiful. Another suggestion I might have is skip the lavish affair but get a pretty dress from your favorite store, a small but beautiful bouquet (if that even matters to you), bring parents, siblings, and a couple of your closest friends, and hire an officiant to perform a meaningful ceremony at a park or on a beach near you depending on where you live. I have officiated several weddings with just 5 or 6 people in attendance and made sure it was still a moment the couple could treasure. I even did a ceremony in a Mexican restaurant with a giant margarita! You can all go out to dinner after and just celebrate the moment without stressing budgets, timelines, and all the extras we put into a wedding. Good luck to you and your family.

Dude, margaritas in a Mexican restaurant after the courthouse sounds divine right now. I am so happy to have my kids back and this experience really solidified our family. The kids got to see that FH isn't just someone who is with me but is with them as well which was pretty neat. Just have to shift my head space into focus of what we can do instead of what we can't.

I'm so sorry you're having to start over! Having a small courthouse ceremony and taking everyone out to dinner after is a great option