I've been so, so fortunate that my FH's daughter has been friendly with me since the start. I met her when she was 9 and she's 11 now. We only get her about 25% of the time (if we're lucky). I don't know what it's like having step parents and I don't have children of my own.
So my question is: what are some ways to make her feel special on our big day? We are eloping and she'll be the only guest in attendance. She and I will be making and decorating the cake, she'll be doing a "first look" with her dad after she's all dolled up, and I'm writing vows to her that will be a surprise for both of them. We are also doing a sand ceremony so we'll have a special keepsake to honor us officially joining together as a family.
I just want her to know how special it is that we're gonna be family and how much both of us love her. I think I'm a little paranoid that since we don't see her very often, she won't grow up feeling close to us. She keeps to herself and doesn't talk about how she feels very often, so I'm doing the best I can to make sure she's happy but I want any advice you have!