a Proposal At The Wedding

Never okay. Don’t steal someone’s thunder.

I know there are some people that would be fine with it (if they asked before of course) but I’m not one of them.

This happened at my first wedding. I was livid.

Only with the prior approval of the bride and groom.

It would depend on who’s Wedding it was.

Mine: 😒🤯🤬
Anyone else’s: 🤭🤔😒

It’s not okay to appropriate (hi-jack) someone else’s event that they’ve worked so hard to coordinate and pay for and turn it into your own Engagement 🎊🎉🎈‼️

I was 😒when someone “proposed” at my Grandma's 🏠during Christmas. It seemed staged to me.

We had a good friend of ours ask if they could propose after our wedding. We’re having a destination wedding, so he’s planning on proposing sometime that week. We’ve given him our blessing and are very excited for both of them. However many people aren’t as lax as us, and I could see why people could get upset. I do think proposing during a wedding is tacky and ruins it for both the newlyweds and the engaged couple. Everyone deserves their own moment.

I think it's only okay if you clear it with the bride and groom (I was prepared to allow this for my FHs cousin but they got engaged way earlier and married 3 weeks later). However, that doesnt give them the right to hijack someone's photographer either. If you get the okay to propose during another person's wedding, you still should figure out another person to do your pictures.

If you clear it w/ the bride & groom & they are ok w/ it then it’s ok. If they aren’t, then nope.

View Quoted Comment This. Only very special people to the couple, and only if asked way in advance. Relatively few people will say yes. Those who have been urging some couple to take the plunge, may think it wonderful. And never, never ask the bride it groom's family it parents. Only the couple. Families often will say yes to something the couple does not want. Then you are starting a family fight, which is inexcusable. And gracefully accept a no answer if it is not wanted.

On the flip side, If my FH proposed to me during SOMEONE ELSES WEDDING I would be so embarrassed!!!! I would of course want to say yes but simultaneously smack him for being so reckless to make the day about us instead of the bride and groom.

Not ok aha. I think it does kind of steal the thunder a bit.

I don't think it's ever okay. Let the bride and groom have their day, then have your own!

Absolutely, positively, totally not cool.

Weddings are about love, yes, but about a particular love story, and inserting your own into that day is just.... wow. A wee bit narcissistic, much?

View Quoted Comment Yes. In fact, if my now husband had proposed to me in any public way in place, I would not have said yes, I'd have said, see you later and walked away and kept on walking. Once someone I was dating ( who turned out to care more for me than I did for him) went to my Dad. He had a ring. And he formality asked my Dad for permission to marry me. And my Dad told him, No. He said, my daughter is her own person. And anyone who thinks she needs approval or permission from me or anyone else to get married, does not know her well enough to marry her. . . . I think this is true of any public proposal. Having the permission of the couple is only one thing. If the person you are proposing to does not like being the center of a crowd's attention, at the time of a life altering and extremely personal moment, you may make your beloved so embarrassed and angry that it takes months to get your relationship back. It is total thoughtlessness and your desire to be in the spotlight, that you are putting way ahead of your loved one's feelings, for many. Not a good start to an engagement.

View Quoted Comment I can understand that.

View Quoted Comment I think you should definitely ask the bride and groom before doing it.

View Quoted Comment OMG really? Did it take away from your moment? Did you speak to the proposer afterwards?

View Quoted Comment I agree with that.