A Friend's Wedding (1 Month Ahead)

I should mention we just received their STD.

My life didn't stop just because my wedding was approaching. I still went to work, full-time. Still had my kids to worry about (they're 6 and 5). I mean life was normal, and oh yeah, we're getting married in a month, 2 weeks, 1 week whatever. Using your wedding as an excuse when it's a month beforehand is a stretch.

You don't HAVE to invite them to your wedding even if you go to theirs.

If you don't want to go, just decline. You don't owe them an explanation.

I have a friend coming to my wedding and her wedding is only 2 weeks after mine. I agree with Paris... life doesn't stop just because you're getting married. I still plan on going about my life and doing things with my friends the month before.

Yea everything Paris said. I never ever said "oh sorry I can't do that I'm planning a wedding"

Sound like your mind is already made up, send a gift with best regards that you will not be able to attend.

I wouldn't go because I wouldn't make a three hour drive for someone I'm not that close to. I think the closeness or your wedding in this situation is kind of irrelevant. I would just RSVP no when the time comes. She probably isn't going to ask you why you aren't coming.

Skip going because you aren't close as friends not because you are planning a wedding as well.

If your not even close to them, then dont even go. I doubt youll be crazy busy I mean as the others stated, life goes on. Just send them a card or something politely declining.

iF YOU want to go then, go. I doubt 1 weekend almost a month before your wedding is going to pull back your DIY plans. & BTW you wouldnt have to invite a whole group of friends if you invited them..I dont see where or why you would have to? Her and her husband will know eachother. but if you simply cant or dont want the extra 2 guests then dont invite them. & dont give them a reason unless they ask why they werent invited.

if you come off like hey well come to your wedding but we cant invite you to ours, thats awkward lol

Im going to a wedding of a friend the week before mine. Wedding planning isn't an excuse not to attend a wedding. It seems like more you don't want to go because she's not invited to yours and you don't want to feel bad not inviting her. That's understandable. She probably doesn't realize she's not invited yet. I think not going and not inviting them to yours will probably put a strain on your friendship so I'd prepare for that. I really don't know what to tell you with this one. I would go to the wedding if they were my friends and it was drivable. Sorry I'm not of more help

One of my bridesmaids is getting married a week before my wedding. she lives 2 hours away. we dont share friends in the sense of wedding guests. I will most likely not be able to attend her wedding as I will have my last minute things to take care of as well family from out of town coming etc.

by the way, she chose her wedding date a month after i informed her of mine...

i don't think you should feel guilty about not inviting them just because they invited you. they if anyone should understand how expensive weddings are!

Ok thanks guys! I actually don't mind going to her wedding (I actually really like weddings!), I honestly just wasn't sure how busy things get before the wedding. People (like my mom and other friends) keep telling me it's going to be crazy, but in general I'm a pretty crazy person so I wasn't really sure what she meant.

And I'll try not to feel guilty about not inviting them Maybe I can do something casual later on in the other city like brunch at my parents house or something.

Seriously, I love you guys! Thanks for all of the input!!!

Amanda-Kiora, if you want to go to the wedding, you should go. I am willing to bet that by then you could use a break from all your DIY projects and you will be able to have some fun. Just because you attend (if you want) the wedding doesn't mean you need to invite them. I just think you shouldn't let others tell you what you should do, you will have to make that decision.

If you weren't getting married this year, would you go to the wedding? That's your answer.

Taking a couple of days two weeks before your wedding will still leave you with lots of time.

I would try to go & just be a good friend. A month out, you might need a break from all the planning! And since you'll have your parents there, it might be nice to have a weekend away!

We're also date twins!!

Woo! Date twins It's an auspicious day (according to the Chinese internet almanac), lol