APD
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A couple questions on escort cards

APD, on May 25, 2017 at 1:32 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19
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We will be assigning tables, not seats, and we will be doing escort cards for our guests.

Do we make out an escort card for John Doe's girlfriend Sally Jane individually? Or do we just do one escort card for John Doe and Sally Jane?

If John Doe didn't have a girlfriend and was given a plus one and he RSVP'd for the plus one, we would label that as John Doe and Guest, correct?

For husband and wives, do we put Mr. and Mrs. John Doe on the escort card?

Am I overthinking this? Lol.

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Latest activity by APD, on May 25, 2017 at 2:07 PM
  • hannahdee
    Super June 2018
    hannahdee ·
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    What are escort cards? I think we're assigning tables as well so I'm curious

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  • BookcaseHat
    Master July 2017
    BookcaseHat ·
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    I'm planning to do one card per couple, rather than per person.

    I'm also not planning to use titles, so the card will say "Joe and Betty Smith" or "William Brown and Mary Jones."

    ETA: hopefully you will be able to find out the name of John Doe's guest, but if he really doesn't know who he's bringing until the last second, then yes, I'd just say "John Doe and Guest."

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  • Ella
    Super August 2017
    Ella ·
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    I've been to weddings doing both -- 1 per couple or 1 for each person. i've also seen them with titles or without. i think that's just your preference.

    try to get the name of the guest. i went to a formal work event with my FH last year where he just said he was bringing a guest (totally his fault) but it was sort of weird to have a name card that just said "guest" on it.

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  • NewlyMrsLachney
    Master September 2017
    NewlyMrsLachney ·
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    We're doing a seating chart printed and displayed, then each place setting will have an individual marble tile with the guest's name on it. We are having a plated dinner where our venue must know where everyone is seated.

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  • APD
    VIP July 2017
    APD ·
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    @Catlady and @Bookcase, I also want to know the names of the guests that my guests will be bringing, but in the case that they arn't for sure or can't give a concrete answer, you know?

    I also don't want to be putting out an obscene amount of escort cards, I thought the way that I was going to do it would work, but I wanted to make sure. I didn't think about not using the titles, so there I was overthinking that part, lol.

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
    SleepytheDwarf ·
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    I am doing them for each individual, but that's because my venue requires them to be marked with entree choices. Which is the one thing that annoys me a teeny bit about my venue.

    I also only have ~100 guests.

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  • APD
    VIP July 2017
    APD ·
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    I went to a wedding a couple years ago, back when FH was a boyfriend and we had already been together for a couple of years. The couple put "and Guest" on my escort card. I thought it was odd seeing as they had both met him and knew that we were dating.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    *Escort cards and seating charts are a way to display table assignments, place cards are at your specific seat at the table and indicate your seating assignment*

    I've seen both! Normally only one of us goes to grab our escort cards anyway, so that person can grab one card for the two of us or two individual cards.

    I'd make a good effort to get the names of the plus ones if you can, but don't drive yourself too crazy Smiley smile

    We went with casual address on the seating chart (First Name Last Name). This also eliminates any confusion if guests have the same last name! I'd go with "Jane and John Doe"

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  • New
    VIP May 2017
    New ·
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    Good topic! Our guest list is small enough that I intend to obtain any plus one names to include in the escort cards. I personally like the idea of individual cards, so that's our plan.

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
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    We did one escort card for every body attending - even babies.

    I made sure every card had the guest name so ANY PLUS ONE'S I knew the full name before. I mean the least I can do is get a full name - ask your guest. If I don't get a name, then they don't get a guest. A guest is not a last minute decision lol.

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  • APD
    VIP July 2017
    APD ·
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    I don't have that many guests that are getting a true plus one. But one of them that is, is a male coworker of mine. He will honestly have no idea who he is bringing until these are already printed most likely. The others I will ask, but if they can't give me a name at least I know that I tried.

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
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    Oh yeah if it's too late then so be it.

    I had an aunt who was injured and could not make it but really wanted to come and managed to get a bit better. We told them about the lack of stationary in her name but can accommodate a seat and food etc so it worked out.

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
    VC ·
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    Oh and I only put first and last name on them.

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  • APZ
    VIP March 2017
    APZ ·
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    How big is your guestlist? I did one for every single person (including the tiny humans-for cuteness)...but that was only 90ish, so not a big deal. I also did just first and last names.

    If you can find out guest names, absolutely put their name...if not, I don't think someone who was invited to a wedding within a couple weeks of the event would be upset over the 'and guest' title.

    if you are doing one card per couple, id be sure to put first and last names, even if you also use a prefix, to avoid any confusion.

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  • xray12280
    Master June 2017
    xray12280 ·
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    I made one for each person. For those that responded and guest I asked them their names. My reason for doing individual is for the caterer, I have to put meal choice on the bank of it

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  • StPaulGal
    Master July 2017
    StPaulGal ·
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    I plan on doing one per person, and I specifically put two lines and

    "Names:_________

    _______________"

    on my RSVP cards so hopefully the truly single people will fill in the name of their guest. If someone doesn't, I will just ask. If they really don't know, I guess I would do an escort card that says "Guest of John Doe."

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  • Kara
    Super May 2017
    Kara ·
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    We did one for each guest! We only had 65 guests and were able to make a cute table out of it. We got the cards at Michaels!


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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
    Erin Wood ·
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    We are doing escort cards for each person but that's because we are having a sit down dinner and need to have them marked with meal choice. I think Mr and Mrs is fine. If you can get the name of the date that would be nice.

    I do plan on grouping the cards by family. I don't want them to have to look for 4-5 cards. I will have them stacked with the person I know on the top.

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  • APD
    VIP July 2017
    APD ·
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    We should have around 175 guests, so I'm thinking that one per guest will be overkill and we should do one per couple.

    "John Doe and Sally Jane"

    Or "John and Jane Doe" for the marrieds. Also, I didn't think about doing it like that so thanks all for the advice!

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