9 Bridesmaids ~ Am I crazy?

They will find a way to annoy you at some points... Just remember how much you love them! LOL

Yes you are crazy. So am I. I also have 9 LOL

I don't think so I've got 8 and I love them all!

I have 8 and they've been great. No issues, drama, etc and I'm almost 2 months out. I asked them with about 9 months to go

It's your wedding! I wanted a big party also, but most of my friends are college students (and they're broke and I'm a college girl so I can say that) they can't afford the trip from California to Texas. So I'll be settling with 4 or 5. I think you'll be fine with 9.

I have 2MOH 4BM 1HAnd 1FG my Fiance has 2BM and 5GM so 15 ppl in total...and I love each of them so,much that if I didn't include all I wouldn't include any!

Sounds like a party! Go for it!!!

I orginally had a total of 9 girls in mind. So far I have 5 confirmed and I am totally happy with that, except I have 1 I want to ask but is going through A LOT In life and I know she said when we first got engaged she better be up there with us, but unfortunately life went crashing down and I don't want to burden her with wedding stuff. There's another who was going to be in it as well that's still questionable because she is SIL and since I found out she was cheating on my brother for a year and then got back together, it leaves me in a VERY weird place. Anywho, I think it's your day and if you feel you are able to handle it then don't let no ones opinion stand in your way. This day will be about what you and your fiance want

Good Luck!

So I started with 9 but realized that one of my friends would prefer to just enjoy the wedding without all the obligations and one although a good friend I was thinking of more as an obligation and decided that wasn't the way.

Like so many say more girls more opinions, but here is the thing, this is YOUR day, and a real friend (and someone who should be a BM) honestly would wear a potato sack if you asked. Honestly if you treat them well and they are really there for you and your FH they will respect your wishes. On that note DO NOT give free range on dresses. If your at all a type A person I suggest not asking for open ended opinions. Talk with your MOH first and then if you want give them options (you will not have them all like the same dresses so either have a designer and some styles picked before) or be ready to give them complete control. The missed match dresses are in style anyways now!

Some others touched on it, but the cost is the biggest problem I see. For just 4 girls I tried to limit my budget of gifts to $40 per girl, so there's $160 right there, plus I have two greeters who I spent about $60 on, that's $220. Then for groomsmen gifts there are 4 which ended up being another $100 I think so we're up to $320. Then there's the bouquets for each bridesmaid which are $50 each so that's another $200, then the greeter corsages are $22 each ($44 total), and then the groomsmen boutonnieres are $11 each ($44 total). That makes the total for flowers and gifts $608. Then there's our rehearsal dinner, each person will cost us $36.95 so for 10 in our party plus 6 significant others means $591.20 for their dinner. That means a total of almost exactly $1200. So that's for 10 people all together. Just remember that when you choose a big party!

ETA: I also decided not to pay for hair and makeup and told people they can pay if they'd like but I'm perfectly happy if they want to do it themselves. If you do really want them to have particular makeup, hair, and accessories that will be even more. I know it's great to have your good friends with you, but you just remember this before you decide.

I don't think it's as much of an honor when ALL your friends stand with you.

I think it is a little crazy, but if you budget for them as the previous ladies have said, treat them well (not like worker bees, they aren't there to do your bidding) I see no reason that it's inappropriate. But @bringonmay does have a good point.

BringOnMay hit the nail on the head.

I have the same amount.... I thought the same thing to "Am I crazy" LOL

I had 7 bridesmaids (in addition to the MOH) and there were not nightmares leading up to the wedding. That being said, I knew that there was no way to find 1 dress that everyone would look good in/feel comfortable in so I gave them a color and that was it (I ended up having 4 in blue and 3 in silver). I allowed them to choose their own hair and make-up (the only stipulation was no half up do as that was what I wore) and their own shoes. The only thing I mention is that it got crowded/hectic in the suite where we were getting ready but that was even manageable. I liked having the most important people with me while I was getting ready.(I think the success/failure will come from the personalities of your party. If everyone can get along there shouldn't be an issue).

I have 2 MOH's and 6 BM's and then I have 2 greeters and 2 FG's. FI has 2 BM, 6 GM, and 2 ushers along with a ring bearer! We are big too.... GO BIG OR GO HOME haha

Yes, it's crazy. But if you have relatively drama free friends, it'll be fine, and it might even be awesome. Or it might be a shit storm. Only time will tell...

To answer your question, YES you are! Lol but sounds like a lot of fun!!

In my opinion, yes that is too many. We only have 3 on each side and it's perfect. However, it is your day and if that is what you and FH want then I see no issues with it. Everyone has differing opinions on the BP.