9 Bridesmaids ~ Am I crazy?

Yes. No one has nine best friends; how would you feel being one of nine?

It will cost loads (gifts, flowers, hair and mu, if you're requiring it....rehearsal dinner with S/o's), organizing them will be a headache, and everything you do is multiplied by 20.

If the theory behind a wedding is that the people invited are all special to you, why give yourself this much additional stress?

But then this is me. And you'll do what you want regardless.

I have 7 and I have gotten similar opinions. I think it really depends on what you want them to be involved with and their personalities. If you want them all to come dress shopping for your dress and theirs, it's way too many, but I only brought my mom shopping for my dress and I gave them a list of dresses they can each pick from (so they will not all be wearing the same dress but I know I like them) and so far so good.

I think it's overkill. Everyone who attended our wedding was special to us. We didn't need all of them standing at the altar with us. Coordinating schedules, budgets, sizing and dress styles will be a logistical nightmare. I worked at a bridal shop for 5 years. I've worked with a lot of brides and even more bridesmaids. The bigger the party, the more potential for problems.

I think it depends. I have 9 BMs and haven't had the problems I thought I was going to. I found convertible dresses to be a life saver as far as coordinating with sizes and budgets. Maybe I just don't expect much from them either but it's been surprisingly smooth.

That's a lot to me, but it's not my wedding! Lol as long as you have faith that there will be no drama between them, then heck yeah, go for it!

We also have a large bridal party, 8 BM, 8 GM, a flower girl and a ring bearer. One thing I didn't consider is the COST involved in a large bridal party. Bridal party gifts, paying for hair and makeup for everyone (holy crap!), even the cost of the rehearsal dinner was not something I had thought about. So, just be aware that a bigger bridal party means higher costs. That being said, I couldn't imagine not including any of the people we chose!

ETA: Disagreeing with the posters who are saying "they must not be special to you" "no one has 9 best friends" "how would you feel to be one of 9?" blah blah blah. It is definitely possible to have 9 best friends. Each of the 8 girls I asked are my best friends- best friend since 2nd grade, best friends since 8th grade, 3 best friends from college, my sister and my FSIL. Not a single one of them could I do without.

I have 8 and he has 7 (was 8 but 1 won't be in the country) plus our kids and my MOH kids. It is a lot crazier to try and get everyone together, but it can be done.

Thanks everyone for your input! 4 of the girls standing up with me are sisters, my MOH is my 12 year old daughter and the other 4 have been friends since kindergarten. We are having a very large wedding, and we absolutely have factored in the costs associated with a large bridal party. I understand (as do the girls) that all schedules won't always mesh. And we are ok with that. My BM's are all laid back, and have all verbalized that they are excited to be part of our day, and basically will go with the flow. They are similar in age to us, I'm 34 and FH 37- so I'm really hoping the drama stays at a minimum (I know I could be completely wrong). I hope not!

If it works for you, go for it! There is no magical number that is correct and there can be problems or drama whether you have 12 bridesmaids or 2.

Yes. I am finding it nearly impossible to wrangle 3 myself. Good luck!

Yes, too many. I have 7. I wanted 4. Stand your ground but if you want all of them, then it's your choice. We just all went dress shopping for the bridesmaid...and wow...I almost had a melt down! Glad that's over with!! Good luck!

I also say yes..... and make sure you can afford all that. It means a more expensive bachelorette party (if you are helping in that department), more flowers, more plus 1's, more gifts, more make up, more make up artists, more dresses, more shoes, more people who don't like that shit.... so on and so forth.

I have a pretty big party as well. I only wanted 5 BM's and 5 GM' but I really wanted my cousins to be in it so it went from 5 to 9. 11 if you count my MOH and my FG. But I have a friend who had 12 girls and 9 guys. I think that if you want them by your side and they want to be in it there is nothing wrong with having a big bridal party. Those people mean the most to you and this is your day.

Your wedding , your choice but for the record I think it's insane. You go girl!

I think it's a little crazy but it's your day. I was a bridesmaid in a party of 15. You need to make sure you have a clear outline of what you want and expect. My bride left it up to the girls to make certain decisions which only created lots of confusion. The group pictures were very nice and they rented a party bus to move us around at the same time. This made things a lot easier. Good luck!

Yes, youre crazy

Wow that's alot, but doable. To save on all the dress drama, I found and brought all my ladies dresses (I have five). They loved them. Told them what shoes to wear and that was that. You'll be just fine. Happy planning!!

I don't think it's too much. I have 7. Just be mindful when you have that many when it comes to everyone meeting deadlines. Getting their dress/shoes etc.

I am having 8 and my bestfriend is having 9! I think its great when people have large bridal parties!! enjoy

I agree with JK8115. If you are happy with the ladies you have, I don't see a problem with it.