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Nikki
Just Said Yes October 2019

6 Bridesmaids and flower girl and no groomsmen

Nikki, on September 15, 2019 at 3:19 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 25

HELP ... Our wedding was supposed to be a small casual wedding has turned into a big stressful nightmare... When we got engaged I got excited and went overboard and invited 6 girls to be bridesmaids (including his 2 sisters) Our wedding will be in northern Ca and my fiancé is from Ohio so his guests...
HELP ... Our wedding was supposed to be a small casual wedding has turned into a big stressful nightmare... When we got engaged I got excited and went overboard and invited 6 girls to be bridesmaids (including his 2 sisters) Our wedding will be in northern Ca and my fiancé is from Ohio so his guests have turned out to be only his parents, 2 sisters, and one sisters family and the remaining guests are about 30 of my friends and family most of whom he’s never met. As if I don’t already feel bad enough about most of the guests being people he doesn’t even know, none of his male friends or family are coming out so all will have on his side is his 5 year old son and I will have my daughter and six bridesmaids including his 2 sisters. We are wracking our brains trying to figure out how this arrangement will work when we are standing up at the ceremony and it’s become such a sore subject since he’s so upset I invited so many bridesmaids that he won’t even talk about it with me anymore and just says do whatever I want. All we can think of is to add my friend’s husband my uncle and his dad... but he says he didn’t want to just add “filler” people to be groomsmen. Please help with advice on how I can fix this situation! The only ideas I can think of are have his sisters on his side but that would still leave 5 girls on my side. Or the other idea is have to everyone walk up but then sit down in the front row but I feel bad because a lot of the bridesmaids are traveling long distances and they have all bough special dresses. Pleeeasse Helllllp!

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  • Adriane
    Beginner May 2024
    Adriane ·
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    How ironic lol my fh hasn’t met half of my family due to everyone living all over. My wedding was supposed to small as well and It’s ending up being bigger than we expected. The good thing about untraditional weddings is you can do WHATEVER you want. I have my bridesmaids walking alone as I have a big family and fh only has a family of 10 coming to the wedding. I wanted to include my sisters and nieces in my wedding. So they will stand alone unless he finds groomsmen from somewhere. Lol it’s your special day no one will question why they’re aren’t an equal number on each side.
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  • Kelly
    Devoted March 2021
    Kelly ·
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    I'm so sorry your having this dilemma!! As if Wedding planning wasn't stressful enough!! Why don't you split your girls up and do 3 on your side and 3 on his?? It's almost 2020 he can have women on his side people mix it up all the time!! If you really want to keep your girls since they already bought their dresses and are traveling for this, that's what I would do!! Again, sorry y'all are going through this, hopefully with all these different suggestions, you'll find your answer!! Good luck!!
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  • Kat_
    Super October 2019
    Kat_ ·
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    I would talk to your FH and together decide what makes sense for you both. Start from scratch and really listen to his vision and what he wants too... there’s room for compromise here. Then talk to your bridesmaids and tell them that after talking with your FH, you’re going another direction and not having so many in your bridal party. True friends and family should understand this situation. It’s really all about you and your partner on this special day 💗. Good luck!
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  • Nikki
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Nikki ·
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    Thank you!! I hope you have an amazing day! And yes who cares it’s OUR weddings after all! 😆🤪
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  • Colleen
    Just Said Yes November 2021
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    If I were you I'd have your fiancee's sisters be a part of the groom's party as well as his son. I know it's a little unconditional but I have my brother as a "bride's man" because I want him up there with me. That way both sides are even. Hopefully it works out for you. Good luck girl!
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