49 days & pancreatic cancer

If it comes to the time where she is unable to attend (though from your closeness I bet she's trying like crazy) I would definitely do that to share the experience with her.

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I think that’s a lovely idea!! You can always FaceTime her on your wedding day too if she is feeling up to it.

I ferfinurely agree this is a good idea and so sweet. I am sorry you are going through this!

One thing I want to add in is do not wait! See her ASAP. When my mom was sick, the doctor’s gave her a month. She had one good week and then the next week she was not coherent and passed at the end of the week. My grandfather had cancer when I was a teenager and back then I was stupid and waited to visit and by the time I did, he was so out of it on drugs for pain that he kept asking afterwards when I would visit. Towards the end, with either drugs or your body breaking down, you are not fully there with sight (though you can very much hear everything). So if you want to share this moment with her, make it as soon as possible so that your aunt can fully expedience it and it will be special.

Maybe you can ask your photographer depending on how far he or she is from you to do a side job and capture the moment as well.

My grandfather's girlfriend, who I am really close with has lung cancer and it's most likely she will not make it to the wedding date. I am not as far away as you are, but anytime I have any wedding update I always try to show her. My mom says it makes her happy to see, she also gifted me some broaches for my bouquet that my aunt put together so she could see it. I would love for her to see me in my dress. I would take the opportunity to have those pictures taken and for her to see you in your wedding dress for sure. I agree you should do it sooner rather than later.

I wish I had the chance for my PopPop to see my in a wedding dress unfortunately he passed away 2 years ago from cancer. It really sucks. It was so fast after he was placed in hospice. I would definitely go up in your wedding dress ASAP.

I was a hospice rn for 6.5 years-yes wear the dress and yes get there ASAP! If she has less than two weeks she may have only a few fairly coherent days. I’m so very sorry!

I am so sorry you are going through this. We just found out FMIL has stage 2 pancreatic cancer and this is my biggest fear. The wedding is 6.5 months away and I just keep circling through the what if's. Go see her, wear that dress, make those memories!

I’m so very sorry and I know how you feel. One of my best friends (since age 5) just passed away from pancreatic cancer on 2/12/19 at the age of 43. She battled it for 2 years and had surgery to have the tumor removed. But that was a short lived success because it quickly returned.

I got engaged a month before she passed and I'm so glad that she was able to hear my funny engagement story and see the ring. With it being so early in the planning stage, I didn’t have a dress or any details in place. But if I did, I would have most certainly shown her my dress (Especially because 2 weeks before she passed, the meds had her very loopy and incoherent). Then a week prior she was no longer able to speak. It was the roughest years I’ve been through thus far. I miss her deeply and feel sad at random times when wedding planning because I know she won’t be there (physically) to celebrate with us.

I’m probably off topic for the post because I get emotional thinking about my friend (who was more like a sister). But I do hope you can share your dress with your aunt.