46 days until Wedding... only 6 people have Rsvp'd

You need to reach out to the people that haven't RSVP'd. Just showing up isn't an option. This is a wedding, not a birthday party.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. Keep in mind too that without an rsvp you can’t even be sure people received their invitations. Unless you hand delivered them all, things get lost in the mail all the time.

This is the point where follow up calls happen. A few days after your RSVP deadline, reach out to the non-RSVPers. Something like "Hey there, hope all is well. Our RSVP date has passed, and we were wondering if you'll be able to come to the wedding? Please let us know by (insert date). If we don't hear anything, we will mark you down as a regretfully declines. Thank you, and we look forward to hearing from you." For our RSVP follow ups, I divided the list: I reached out to my friends, FH his friends, FMIL their family, and my mom our family. Took a couple of days to gather all of the responses.

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Exactly this

I would imagine with small wedding like that you must know all 30 people really well, no? In this case a phone call, a text message, or even talking in person would be very easy to do to follow up, no?
It does sound ridiculous that they won’t rsvp but will show up 🤔

View Quoted Comment 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 100% agree! LOVE the way you put this!

What I’m doing for RSVP’s is calling the people that haven’t rsvp by the date I’m doing my side of the family and FH his side...I don’t have that much patience lol will see how that goes 😆

View Quoted Comment I couldn't agree more to be honest!

And in response to other comments as well... Most of the responses I recieved already are from my family, who are from way out of town. The people who aren't RSVPing are from my fiance's side of the family. I've met some a few times but a good chunk I dont know too well, but my fiance wanted them there. So at this point I have to talk to him (and ultimately his momma who had been a great help) to try and get this to work.
Also, my fiance's uncle just sent out a message to the family saying "Hey I know usually the family is bad for not RSVPing but this is a wedding please get back to us"....
Despite that, still radio silence. Sigh.

This would frustrate me too! You've already reached out and the wedding is fast approaching. There's not much you can do but not include them in the final headcount. They're adults who are fully capable of following directions, so don't feel too bad!

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You or your FH need to reach out and explicitly tell them that if you don't receive a response, there will not be a seat or a plate for them at the wedding. "Hey there, just wanted to follow up as our RSVPs were due Saturday and I noticed that we haven't received yours. We need to have a final headcount by Friday. If we don't hear from you by then, we will assume you're unable to attend."

I would definetly reach out via phone to the guests who have not rsvp'd. You guys need final numbers and that is unacceptable of these people to not respond.

View Quoted Comment This is what I'm going to do I'm going to write a disclaimer on invite

Ugh this happened to me in a sense that a ton of people didn't rsvp on time and it was kind of annoying but i had to just chase them down and ask them. some people think of weddings so casually - they don't quite realize how hard we work to plan this event by person.

Many people do not realize that you actually NEED an accurate head count for your venue and/or caterer. The fact that FHs side of the family never RSVPs, but usually shows up is not acceptable this time around. Like someone else said, this is not a birthday party or other event where the numbers are flexible. You need to know EXACTLY how many people to expect. If you get the number wrong, either way, it's going to cost you more money.

So, this is the time where you and FH sit down with your list, and personally contact every person that has not yet responded. You can ask FMIL for help if you want (she probably knows everyone on that side of the family). But it has to be done. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

That is unacceptable it’s not that hard to fill out an RSVP and put in mailbox. The address and stamp are already on them. I want all my RSVPs sent back to me inc family and bridal party word of mouth means nothing to me.

People seem to forget that you pay for every piece of paper they receive. You paid for every invitation, RSVP and even info card that went in the mail. Not to mention the stamps! It’s ridiculous people can’t check yes or no and put it back in the mail. I’m having the same problem with my FH fam. I’d say 90% if the RSVPs we’ve gotten so far have been from my side. What is up with that?!

Ugh, that's so frustrating. My wedding is the day before yours and my deadline is June 15th. I am still waiting on so many RSVPs and like no one had actually booked a room. Plenty of people have told my mom they are coming and asked her for the hotel block info, yet I've still got nothing. I also got a few "you know I'm coming, can I just not send the RSVP back?" I paid for the return postage! Just throw it in the mailbox!!!! I just view it as a waste if 55 cents! And with like 75 invites mailed out, that adds up!