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3/19/21 wedding in Arizona - want to move forward but family is not supportive

Kelly, on January 3, 2021 at 12:06 PM Posted in Arizona Planning 0 5
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Hi Fellow Brides! We were originally supposed to get married 3/28/20, postponed to 10/24/20 and postponed AGAIN to 3/19/21. Our vendor won’t let us postpone without losing 50% of our deposit, which would be ~$12k. My fiancé and I have come to terms with the fact that not everyone will show, we’ve cut our guest list from 170 to 75 and at this point just want to be married! Our families have started telling us we should postpone again but no one seems concerned with the financial loss or the stress of it. I’m not sure what to do. I know you can’t put a price on people’s health but I also feel like we have to live our lives too. The ceremony and reception are all outdoors and we plan to observe social distancing, masks etc. anyone else in a similar situation? How are you handling family pushback??

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Latest activity by Cyndy, on January 3, 2021 at 5:51 PM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Fellow AZ bride here - we’re getting married on 4/3/21 in Mesa at Regency Gardens. We’re getting married on that day regardless- 1) we really love our date & 2) we have been through so much both as a couple & individually. My fiancé is a firefighter/medic & I work at a hospital- we both started the vaccine last week. We are doing everything we can to ensure the health & safety of our guests. Our venue has cut their max capacity from 250 to 160 to be in compliance- our guest list is around 90 which is around 60% of the max capacity. Tables are 10 (instead of 12) per table & are 6 feet apart. Plenty of masks & hand sanitizers will be available. We know some will still not come & we respect their decision but this day is about us. Planning a wedding during a pandemic isn’t for the weak! You do you girl!
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  • T
    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    I would play hardball with them and tell them the cost to postpone is X ($12k plus new invites, cancellation fees and/or price changes on honeymoon or travel, anything else) and tell them that's more than *you* are willing to pay, which implies they're free to foot the bill if they want. People love to have opinions about how you should spend your money 🙄


    Other than that, I would say to tell anyone who asks that you've weighed your options and decided this is the best course of action. I've heard in situations where people are obstinate, don't JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain).
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    If you want to marry, then do it and don't wait for other people's approval or support. If they refuse to support you, they are free to stay home, and no one needs that toxicity. You can't put other life events/decisions on hold either because someone else doesn't like what you have chosen.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I recommend you carry on. Your loved ones have the choice to attend or not. My FH and I ended up cancelling our wedding and opted for an elopement
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I think you just need to move forward with your plan. Those that love you will be there and if not, then you just have to be ok with that.
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