2nd Wedding no-no's?

Listen, if you’re not comfortable doing something, regardless of reasoning, you shouldn’t do it. That being said, there are no rules you need to follow just because it’s your second wedding. This was my second wedding as well (1st for H) and I wrestled with feeling guilty. But eventually I realized that this is my wedding to the love of my life and why should I “tone it down” just for fear of what someone might think? My husband and I both deserved to celebrate our happiness fully. I did, however, do certain things to respect my friends and family. I talked to the bridesmaids who stood up for me before and told them straight up they didn’t need to do it again if it was too much to ask. I didn’t have a blow out bridal shower, but my mom wanted to throw me one so of course I obliged. I didn’t ask my bridesmaids to attend because they were all out of town. I had a bachelorette because my bridesmaid wanted to throw me one. I never asked for any of it, but was happy to celebrate when others were.

If someone wants to celebrate you, even if it’s your 50th marriage, I think you should let them if you’re comfortable and happy with that.

I am having the same issue, it is also my fiancee and I second marriage. However he had the big wedding but no showers were given to him on his first wedding and I got married at the jp for my first wedding and had a cook out for our "reception". So this is both of ours first traditional wedding with everything, my grandparents want to throw a shower so we did a small registry with things we don't have or that need to be replaced.

Okay, I can't edit my original post so I want to add: You do what you want, within your budget. If you want three bridesmaids, have them. If you want seven, have them! This will be an awesome day to celebrate - so do so!! Our wedding was a bit more low key as my husband is the epitome of low key but if he wanted a big affair we would have done it - I had a big bash the first time and did not want to deny him that opportunity. So have a swanky affair, have an informal BBQ - but make it your day and enjoy it!!!

This is also my second and my FH's first. I see no reason to not celebrate this marriage as much as the first, especially since it's his first wedding. We're still a little ways out, but I've already been offered a shower. I wouldn't expect one otherwise (but I wouldn't anyway). I had a tiny family- only wedding the first time so only my immediate family will be the only ones to have attended both.