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2nd Wedding for a 2nd marriage - Yes or No

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sarah, on April 11, 2018 at 10:38 PM

On another forum there was a post by a woman intensely offended that she got an invite to a cousins 2nd wedding. As in 2nd marriage, not a vow renewal, but got divorced and is getting remarried.

and that the cousin had the audacity to choose a location 3 hrs away from poster that would require people to get a hotel.

Is this a real issue??

Am I making a huge mistake having a full 2nd wedding, poofy dress and all and havubg it local to me but a great distance from many of my guests??

Is this a real issue or just this lady??

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Devoted August 2018
Kelly · on April 12, 2018 at 8:43 AM
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It's totally just her. People who get mad that a wedding is located far away from them are crazy. They don't have to go if they think it's too far. You have your full wedding and enjoy the hell out of it!
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Super June 2018
Future Mrs M · on April 12, 2018 at 9:23 AM
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This is my second marriage, second wedding.
I got married when I was 18 and had barely any money or mind to do it. Plastic table cloths, tiny vases with candy as centerpieces, no alcohol.
This wedding is completely different. It is right and I deserve it. This is FH's first marriage, as well.
If someone feels a way on my decision to have a wedding, they are more than welcome to "decline" the invite.
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Michelle · on April 12, 2018 at 9:34 AM
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Anyone who would be offended can just rsvp “no” and move on! Lol you can do what you want and if you want a second wedding then do it
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Expert June 2019
Ginsteeca · on April 12, 2018 at 2:41 PM
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It's not a thing anymore. I'm getting married for the second time and we're having the wedding we want, and yes it will be more expensive than my first. Anyone who would begrudge my happiness after being widowed can go kick rocks, I'll be enjoying my special day.
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Devoted September 2019
Kate · on April 12, 2018 at 3:13 PM
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Have the wedding YOU want, celebrate your new life together as husband and wife!
If anyone has a problem, that's on them and they can stay home. You deserve to be happy on your day!
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Brittany · on April 12, 2018 at 3:47 PM
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A family member of mine got married a few years ago and it ended in a divorce after only a year. A few of my family members said they wouldn't go to another wedding if she got married again. I found that so messed up, it wasn't like this couple rushed into marriage or anything they dated for years, got married and then the person was unfaithful. If this family member were to find love again and want to get married to someone else I'd absolutely attend the wedding!
Have the wedding you want You deserve happiness
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VIP June 2018
PrincessLawrence · on April 12, 2018 at 4:37 PM
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My dad is on this third marriage step moms second. My dad had two big church weddings. This third one was in vegas with about 35 people but still went like all out. I see nothing wrong with it
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Devoted June 2019
Mrs.V2Be · on April 12, 2018 at 5:00 PM
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Is it the same people who divorced getting married to each other again or is it same lade new man getting married? My fiancé has been married and I haven't. We are doing more of a wedding than either of us actually wanted because I'm the only child and I can't let my mom down. Just can't. Surprisingly, FH's family is super excited for him. Likely because his first marriage was "doing the right thing with the wrong woman" type deal. I say if people want to spend this kind of money and have the extra stress in their lives...let em do it. You don't like it, don't want to travel, blah blah blah...stay home and pout while everyone else gets a free meal and a party without your sourpuss self to ruin it.
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Devoted June 2019
Mrs.V2Be · on April 12, 2018 at 5:01 PM
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Sorry for your loss. You are one of the lucky ones to overcome and find happiness again! I wish you well!
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Devoted May 2019
Lee · on April 12, 2018 at 6:22 PM
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There is no reason anyone should shame anyone about anything! Especially not a marriage. It's my first his second. I don't care what anyone says. We are allowed to celebrate how we want. It's not harming anyone that we are doing what we are doing. If they don't want to be a part of that they can f right off.
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Savvy June 2019
Kathleen · on January 15, 2019 at 4:29 PM
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THANK YOU for your post! I needed to read that reassurance that we deserve to celebrate our love & happiness. We are keeping costs down and guest list tight- to save money.
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