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2nd marriage and wedding registry

JazzyScooter2018, on February 6, 2018 at 11:21 PM Posted in Registry 0 5

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So this is both mine and FH's 2nd marriages. Both of our last weddings were 10+ years ago (mine was 12 years ago & I think his was about 10 years ago) we are doing a small ceremony followed by a larger (~125 people) cocktail reception (from 7p - 10p). Originally we weren't going to do a wedding registry because it felt a little... tacky (most of these people attended our first weddings so we felt like it was greedy to register for MORE stuff) but then after reading up on it a bit more on different etiquette websites/ forums it was said you SHOULD register for the people who want to buy you a gift (this way you don't run the risk of getting stuff you don't need/ want) then only tell the people who ask about it where your registered.

So we started one on Amazon but I just wanted to see if anyone had any input on what we shouldn't register for or if there was any prices limits we should stay below? My FH and I bought a home 2 years ago and live here with our 3 kids (ages 7, 9 & 11 - all girls) so there's nothing we really need at all. So far weve put on stuff we can use around/ for the house like tools, updated patio stuff, humidifier, storage containers, etc. and then also stuff to do as a family (mostly camping gear and board games) I tried to keep the majority of what we registered for under $30 (with a handful being a bit larger - most expensive thing is ~$125). Just want to make sure we are still within proper etiquette guidelines!

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Latest activity by Bobbi, on March 3, 2018 at 4:27 PM

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LyraGardenia · on February 7, 2018 at 12:04 AM
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It's good to have things in a range of prices, but I've heard don't be afraid to register for big-ticket items you really want if several people want to get you a gift as a group. The most expensive things on our registries are $200. Don't feel pressured to register for things you don't want or need, if you have a small registry or no registry most people will get the hint and give cash. You may end up with a couple random off-registry gifts, but hopefully your guests know you don't need basic stuff like a toaster at this point.
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November 2018
happeningmom · on February 7, 2018 at 6:34 AM
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Fill your registry with whatever you wish...Yes have different price points but also don't be afraid of adding more expensive items. One person may not be able to get you that $2500 tv but 10 people may be able to go in together to get yo the gift. Also list upgrades to your personal bed linens
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beccaewert · on February 7, 2018 at 10:46 AM
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I feel the same way.....I think if we do register its just for the discounts on the list of items not purchased if we want them....but we aren't having a shower......so how do people even know about the registry? I feel odd including it in the wedding invitation. I wouldnt do that
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Wanda · on February 13, 2018 at 1:53 PM
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2nd time around for both of us, too. I was married for 23 years, him for 18. Our kids are grown and gone, and we have less than 5 years to retirement. We are moving to our new (to us) home 45 days after the wedding, and will be furnishing it then from our combined things that we currently have, or deciding on a decor at that time, but haven't decided yet on exactly what, so even upgraded linens seems stupid to me now.
A few have asked about where we're registered. Almost everyone is from out of town, and we know it was a huge financial commitment just to come to the wedding (airfare, hotel), so we asked for absolutely nothing at all. I'm sure we'll get cards, or other random things, all of which will be graciously and gratefully accepted and properly thanked, but I really hope our guests come just to have a good time with us and enjoy our special day.
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Bobbi · on March 3, 2018 at 4:27 PM
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My FH has never been married and this is my second wedding, the first one was 18 years ago. I have also been having trouble with registering for gifts, because most of the people on my side, which is majority of our guests, attended my first wedding. I also did an Amazon registry and Bed Bath and Beyond. I kept the items on the lower end as well, with a few larger items. Mostly items that we wanted to upgrade, including home repair items. What you did is awesome and I think everyone will respect it. I also added to my wedding website that gifts were not necessary and that them attending the wedding was our gift. Best of luck on your big day!
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