21 days to go and we fought about rings 😥

Yes and no. Stress causes people to lose their minds! It makes everyone irritable and insecure.
Doing it on purpose isn't normal though so if you think it's purposeful then be alarmed.
Otherwise just tell her you promise to sort the rings out after the wedding if she still hates it. After the wedding stress is gone shell probably be fine

View Quoted Comment Thnks Kelly

We’ve had fights too... it’s hard not to.. weddings are stressful! Doesn’t help that we are both type A women.. anyways.. we’ve had to find our own swim lanes with things.

Have you tried talking with her about it? She’s probably stressed too and who knows, maybe it’s something else that’s really bothering her? Maybe you could use a break from “wedding” stuff and go on a sweet date?

We also argued recently about rings; we are approximately 3 months out. I'm going nuts because I used to work in jewelry and KNOW we need to buy like NOW, and he's flipping out because he absolutely hates the concept of jewelry. I mean, it's a thing that needs to happen before it's too late and I just want to check it off the list...... like why is he being so dramatic about it. I also had feelings similar to what you describe. I felt like maybe he didn't want to marry me because a ring is how you show the world after the fact that you are married. Looking back, I realized that it was stress due to bad timing of bringing it up (bad night at work--he works thirds), me PMSing, and us trying to get wedding stuff done and close on a house all at the same time. I saw the page with the ring I like as one of his "recently visited" tabs on the desktop, so it's probably not as bad as my brain was convinced.

Is there any way you can take a break of a few days from the whole ring conversation, or maybe even wedding stuff at all? Just for a few days, maybe focus on something you guys totally agree on. See if this fades or festers.

Good luck!

One big lesson to make a marriage work is to learn how to let small things go. It’s a ring. Is it really worth more than your future marriage? Let her pick her ring. Go pick an awesome one for yourself. Change them in a year or two if your tastes change. Who cares? It’s a ring.
I’m picking my ring. I’m having my fiancé pick his. Everyone should have a ring they really love. You’re wearing it every day. Pick your rings and be happy.

View Quoted Comment If you need to Etsy has nice tings that come in pretty fast. He got his wedding band there. I just ordered mine but mine is just a simple silver engraved ring. I plan on using my engagement ring as wedding ring also. I just wanted something not expensive and simple to wear if we are going on vacation like cruises that I do not want to bring ring to.

My fiance and I are 3 weeks out as well and he out of nowhere tells me he expects me to dance when I'm terrified of dancing in front of people. So you're not alone

View Quoted Comment Thanks Rachel taking a break sounds like a nice plan but we are like 2.5 weeks away I think things have calm down a little she cane home and cooked last night we talked and it wasn’t about WEDDING stuff thank God so iam going to take it one day at a time until July 6th thanks a ton 😊

View Quoted Comment Yes we are very opinionated and women and think we know what’s best and the list goes on lol tonight is date night and we ARE not talking about this wedding thanks Kathryn or B 😊

We argued over biscuits.....biscuits. We laugh about it now but during the moment it was serious. I think it’s mainly just nerves and stress, however still pay attention, some people use these times to express true feelings.

Ours, the first disagreement we ever had, was 6 weeks before the wedding. It was about loading the dishwasher. A big blowout over, what? We had a five month engagement, and this was the last week we did any planning or wedding stuff. My mom took care of RSVPs, but we were doing last catering decisions, charts, had worked 60 plus hour weeks all month, with a wedding to attend or be in, 8 weeks straight with only one free. Definitely stress. 1 meal of dishes for 2 and one day of snacks was not important enough to fight over, but we both blew up, against our usual personality types: we can always bring things out and talk to each other. Our next fight was just after our 5th anniversary. Over coffee. With 2 kids having just had surgery, me pregnant , stress plus. We both have moods from sunny to pleasant but quiet, and blowing over silly things is usually not something we do. But I remember this intense fight over cups of coffee. No lasting damage.

It is so normal to fight and have tension about things during wedding planning. Wedding planning can cause added stress to a relationship but this is a testimony to how you'll handle it as a couple moving forward since I am sure there will be more stressful times in the future