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Emily
Beginner July 2023

2021 Bride Advice

Emily, on June 24, 2020 at 2:40 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6
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So I got engaged to my fiancé in March of 2018, and we knew then that we would have a 2 year long engagement because I wanted to finish law school and start working before doing the wedding. Our wedding was supposed to be this June, we postponed it to September when COVID hit, and we just recently postponed it again to June of 2021. I’m definitely getting nervous about 2021 and when I’ve mentioned to my family that I would postpone again to 2022 if COVID was still at all present, they just say cancel it altogether at that point. Is it weird for me to not want covid to surround my wedding day? We’re doing a destination wedding in the US and my fiancé’s family is coming from Europe and Canada. And also I just don’t want to have to take precautions or have the virus looming over my head at all. I want things to be entirely normal when we get married because it’s such a special day that we’re spending so much money on. Does the fact that we’ve been engaged for so long take away from the excitement of our wedding? We have already agreed we do not want to legally get married and then just have the ceremony/reception. And we don’t feel the absolute need to get married until the day can be the way we want it to be. Do any other brides feel this way?

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Latest activity by Gina, on June 29, 2020 at 3:35 PM
  • Rebecca
    Devoted September 2021
    Rebecca ·
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    Yes! I don’t want guests to have to wear masks and feel uncomfortable. We also postponed our big celebration to June 2021, but we ended up going ahead with a small ceremony on our original date. My mom is all for us still having the big celebration, but my husband’s parents think it’s stupid and have told me so and that there’s no point in doing that when we’re already married. I think at this point, if next summer isn’t safe (I have mixed feelings right now), we’ll end up doing something different that our original plan at a later date.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think it makes sense that you want things to go as normally as they would pre-pandemic.

    but i'll be honest with you here - there is a new normal happening. i think even next year or in 2022 there may be things that due to covid, people would have to be mindful of anyway. even if we didn't require social distancing or masks or what not anymore, doesn't necessarily mean they would be entirely rid of.

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  • Reena
    Expert February 2021
    Reena ·
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    Our wedding was set for July 2020. We postponed to Feb 2021. I fully believe COVID will still be around, but it will give us time to come to terms with the restrictions.


    What all of this craziness has taught me is that you need to do what is best for you and your fiancé. I tried to be very accommodating for everyone else’s needs the first time around. Do what will make you happy at the end of the day so you don’t have regrets. And congrats on fishing law school!
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    I think that’s a very normal thing to be feeling! If you want your wedding to be covid free then postponing is obviously the best thing to do. It’s just hard to tell when things will be completely back to normal.
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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    I think if you don’t mind waiting, more power to you. Some people will judge no matter what you do.
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  • Gina
    WeddingWire Administrator April 2021
    Gina ·
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    Hi Emily,

    You are very valid in your feelings and I'm so sorry you are going through this. I understand where you are coming from but I do think it is too soon to postpone your 2021 wedding. So much can happen between now and then!

    Check out these discussions from other couples:

    2021 wedding?

    2021 brides and Covid-19


    I'm sure you already have but my first recommendation is to always check with your vendors to see how they are handling the next few months. Also, if the financial strain of this pandemic prevents some of your guests from attending, will you be OK with their absence? Will waiting until 2021/2022 guarantee their presence? You can't control anyone's circumstances, of course, so maybe you could take an informal poll of the family and friends that you most want to see at your wedding. Their responses may help you decide your next step. In the end, you should make the decision that feels right for you.

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