2 Receptions In One Day

WHY????

Why are you not inviting everyone to ONE reception?

Why?? Like an after party?

Why don't you want everyone at the second reception? That seems rude to me. If you just want a casual afterparty then just spread it word of mouth and whoever wants to come can.

You wouldn't want to put anything regarding the "second reception" on the invitations. This seems a little ridiculous to me (no offense to you I'm just not understanding). You should definitely invite the people who you want to come in person and around no other guests you wouldn't want to come.

Why?

Have one reception. Your wedding is not woodstock.

My FHs friend had a wedding where the reception only went til like 8-9pm and then they went out to bars after with some friends. Is that what you are wanting to do? Just tell people. Like in person; not on an invitation

Uhm.........No......Just no!

Do you know how exhausted you're gonna be from a day like that?

Plus its rude, andthat's not only expensive but way too exhausting. If people are invited to both, its rude to literally take their whole day away from them.

Whyyyy? I hope I'm wrong, but this sounds like you're trying to say you want one smaller event that you'll host and another bigger event where guests pay for themselves (without actually saying that).

If you have two receptions, you must fully host both on your wedding day. Brunch should be at least brunch food and cocktails (mimosas and bloody Mary's, for example - but a more robust would be preferred). If you're hosting a second evening event, it is be dinner and a full bar at that one.

You cannot ask guests to come celebrate with you on your wedding day and not provide food and alcohol for them.

Ladies thank you so much.

Ceremony is at the grand church as well The brunch which is smaller. Both families and are very big. 350 invitations would go out. The later "reception" party type would have a dinner and no formalities just dinner music and dancing. I see this is not a normal thing to do.

350 invitations is, what, 500 people?!

Cut your list if only because there's no way you can say thank you to each guest through a receiving line or table visits.

Yeah OP. Not only is it not normal, it's rude to provide dinner to some, but only brunch to others.

500 people? I don't think I've even met that many people in my life

You're having trouble figuring out how to do this because this is not how it works and it's rude to your guests.

You should have a ceremony and then host a reception immediately afterwards for every single guest that was invited to the ceremony. The end.

If the guests at this second reception are invited to the ceremony in the morning, it's extremely rude to make then wait for hours before hosting them at a reception. It's inconsiderate to make them dress up and come out to your ceremony and then have to find something to do while not messing up their nice attire to pass the time. Imagine if a guest had an hour drive to the area where you are getting married. Are they honestly supposed to drive an hour to your ceremony, drive an hour home, drive an hour back, and then drive a fourth hour back home after the second reception? That's ridiculous.

If you're planning on inviting people to the second reception that aren't invited to the ceremony, that's rude, too. Those guests just shouldn't be invited to anything. It's like saying they aren't good enough to watch you get married, but they can feel obligated to get you a gift.

Have a ceremony, one reception, and make sure everyone is invited to everything.

500 people? you realize you wont even notice if 450 of them are there or not right??

You have no way of personally greeting that many people.

On no planet does any couple have 350 people they have to invite. Yes, I know, I know, culturally every person that has crossed the families' paths must be invited, but it's time to say no to that.

Following for reasons..

Well that's rude to the second tier dinner only guests. They're second best because they don't get to attend the brunch, right?

I am wondering if this is one of those "the entire church is invited" weddings, maybe? If I am right please let me know, and if that is the case Celia is actually GREAT at explaining those types of receptions and that is actually NOT rude.

If I am wrong, maybe you can explain again, cause I am confused and not sure what you are doing or how to help (NOT being snarky at all, genuinely confused).