2 months to go and NERVOUS

I totally went through/am going through this now! We've got 19 days left and I have been waking up in the middle of the night thinking of wedding to do lists and dreaming about forgetting things! I actually went to the doctors last week because I seriously can't sleep which makes me feel crappy all day. He offered me some anti-anxiety meds & sleeping pills but I only took the sleeping pills (and just enough to get me through the next 2 1/2 weeks). I don't think I've done more then an hour of work today because I've been doing wedding stuff non-stop.

So YOU ARENT ALONE!

Amber, take a break -- 1 or 2 days or a week if you can -- from wedding planning.

I have wedding nightmares!!!

I am a month away and my mind is constantly racing so I know exactly how you feel. I am so worried that I will forget something so I have about a million differently lists all over the place LOL. And on top of the regular wedding stress I had my MOH almost cancel on me due to financial issues (she is my sister too) but thankfully a miracle pulled through and that crisis is over only to now be dealing with a completely MIA bridesmaid - the closer we get the crazier my life is becoming. You are not alone. Just remember to breathe and take it one task at a time - at least that's what I keep telling myself LOL

@Ms.R- I have nightmares too!! Weird ones!!

I am SO glad to know I am not alone. I feel like it sometimes. Everyone says they want to help but I can't seem to really actually count on anyone...

@Jeff's Angel- My brother is a groomsman and tried doing the same thing as your sister. I think his jealous wife, who is rude and not in my wedding, is the motive behind him trying to back out. And as sad as it sounds, I have to have a secret back up plan in case he backs out at the last minute as a lash for attention because he's jealous that all the attention is on me and my wedding. Even though they chose to get married at the courthouse on a whim!

Uh.... sorry gals, I'm just stressed and venting.

This is so much work for one day! I can't wait for it to be here, so its done!

I think we're at OPPOSITE ends of the spectrum! I was worried up until this point because i havent done crap! Now im hauling ass and things are going smoother and smoother.

What are some things that are "unorganized" to you? You know.. ive been ignoring the little updates and such on the wedding wire checklist, but i just took a glance at it today and realized how much of a help/stress relief it is. Perhaps you should over look those things (it also feels good to "CHECK" things off the list that youve done MONTHS AGO...so that it feels like you did at lot in the recent months). Seeing things on a checklist, and knowing you have only 60 more things to get done is very relieving! I hope this helps a bit!

I'm sorry to hear that with your brother - my sister was devastated when she first told me she might have to back out but then called me later that day squealing with happiness that she found a solution. Now my biggest issue is the BM who is MIA - I fear she may be the one to actually back out. She's been having some personal issues and is mad at me because I won't tell her what she wants to hear - sometimes the truth is harder to hear but I care too much about her to just lie and pretend her situation is okay. My bridal shower is this weekend and I am hoping she shows but honestly am not expecting her to. I have another friend who said she would stand in her place if need be but I would rather just leave it as is w/ or w/out my one BM.

@Fatima- Thank you, that is excellent advice. I have a friend at work that is getting married 3 weeks after me and she suggested the same thing. I printed off a detailed check list and have been going through it all day and following up on the necessary items... I think that is what started the chain of events that led me to feeling this way!

I also am having a hard time with things that are being taken care of by someone else, ex: my dad is doing the food and cake. I'm not good at relinquishing control!

I hear you! I'm 2 months away as well and I fell like nothing is done! But I actually have pretty much everything done, just some decorating stuff to do and pay off the rings! It'll all work out...just relax for a few days it'll put things in perspctive...I had to do that this weekend and I feel much better!

I feel the same way. I'm freaking out about being able to pay for everything. We just put down a deposit for our apartment for October 1st and now I'm thinking "crap, wedding + moving, now that's another project all on its own." But as much as I want my day to be perfect... I have to remember that there is life beyond my wedding. It's the most important day of my life to this point, but to everyone else... it's a just big party. When I wake up October 16th, the wedding will have come and gone and guests will go home... The linens will no longer be important, the escort cards will be thrown away, the cake will be eaten (most of it)... but more importantly, I'll be married! Now if I can just adopt that mindset for the next 60 days, I'll be golden... Crap, I need to call the soloist!

I am right there with you Amber. I have been feeling so overwhelmed lately with figuring out the logistics and how everything is going to work, who is going to do what, and be where, and when. I've been having emotional breakdowns because of the stress the last couple weeks. I feel a bit better now though, since we got a bunch of banana boxes from the grocery store on Saturday and organized all of the stuff we have bought for the wedding, and labeled the boxes and made a list of what was in each one. It has been a real help hearing all of the ladies on here go though something similar as the day gets closer, it helps me to know that its normal to get overwhelmed and stressed, and that it will all turn out in the end.

I'm about 1.5 months away and have been having MAJOR stress attacks lately!!

You're not crazy; it's more common than not to be stressed about your wedding! But remember, the day is for you! It's YOUR day. So while what you're feeling is totally absolutely 100% normal and you shouldn't beat yourself up for being stressed, just remember that nothing terrible is going to happen...EVEN if you do forget something. As long as you all show up, you're going to get married and it's going to be awesome.

@dragonfly- I'm totally going to do the label and lists in the boxes thing....

I know none of you personally, but you ALWAYS make me feel better.

Thank you all for the amazing ideas, suggestions, love and support :o)

GIRL. i am right there with you.. our 2 month mark was on the 8th.. and i just feel like there are SO many things left to do.. not to mention i changed the girls dresses this weekend and i'm changing the flowers and still feel like there are a million things left to do. i'm stressing hardcore!!!!