12 month vs. 18 month engagement...Cant make up my mind!

What state? Northern state... I say go w/ April if you can. Doesn't snow state... save the money and go w/ Nov. But it also depends on what colors you want or are you flexible on colors and attire bc both will be dramatically different. Also please change your avatar.

If you need it for saving, go for it. I'm partial to April; early spring, rebirth...etc, etc....

And there is a certain beauty to NOT eating and breathing wedding for 18 months....

(see all the "I'm so over this' posts....)

I say April. Florida is beautiful that time of year.

Didn't you start another thread about this, or am I losing my mind?

Didn't you start another thread about this, or am I losing my mind?

Ideally, if you have all the money you need, do it earlier. I have had a 20 month engagement and while I couldn't have afforded it if I had done an 8 month engagement (we considered getting married in August 2014), sometimes I'm just ready for it to be over with.

On the flip side, you may get some discounts for having a November wedding.

LOL...nope, not losing my mind...

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/april-or-november/5ca95c2ef7528ffc.html

We had a 14 month engagement and while I liked getting a lot done early and the fact that it gave us extra time to save, you'll hit a lot of lulls with nothing to do, which can be a good or bad thing depending on your personality. You also wanna consider what season/month you'll wanna marry in. You've gotta what makes you ans your FH happy.

Lol I thought I was posting on a different site. Oh Lordy. Also, what avatar was she asking me to change in the first comment? Not sure what that is, sorry.

Oh, the double rings...a picture of anything (a sock on the floor even) is preferable. There are trolls and spammers here, and the double ring is that default avatar they always use. It's really best to change it -- you'll get far more replies to your posts.

LOL..you changed the avatar and started a third thread. You're going to nuts running back and forth on these threads...

We're doing it in 9 months and I'm not feeling rushed. Like others have said if you need to save wait, otherwise spring is beautiful.

I think when in doubt go with more time. it sounds like that's what you want, give you time to take a bit of a vacation along with other things.

I understand being excited, but that's why God created video scrap-booking and sites like this. we never get tired of hearing all about planning and wedding excitement!

We opted for a 16 month engagement. This was brought down from 20 months. We are doing a long engagement for lots of reasons $$ and procrastination on both parts being the two biggest ones. I guess what it would come down to is, colors, food and atmosphere preferences. If you want rich colors, hearty foods, go November. If you want softer colors, lighter food options, light and airy feel go April.

So ironically we were set to get married, in Florida, November of this year and pushed it back to April of next year.

We were engaged in October of last year so we were going to originally have a 12 month engagement and now we are having an 18 month engagement. So we are exactly in this scenario so I'l tell you how I feel.

I feel great with our decision, we made it for financial reasons and a whole lot of pressure just went away instantly but also an important family member wouldn't be able to attend in November so we moved it back.

The 18 months doesn't feel like forever to me and I'm actually happy that I have time to make other parts of my life a priority and planning can be a more relaxed laid back experience.

As far as and there not being any fun stuff to do right now, yes there is! I've already done lots of fun stuff and the fact that I'm not strapped for time makes it even more enjoyable for me.

I've gone wild on pinterest! pinning like crazy and have narrowed down my style finally. Great fun to do with your girlfriends on a friday night with wine.

I've tried on dresses with my mom, had the "yes" moment. I will return to the bridal shop in august for final measurements to have it custom made (enough time to get my butt on a good workout plan and lose some weight at a healthy moderate speed )

I've gone venue hunting. Saw 10 and put a deposit down on one this Thursday (a lot of venues get booked up a year in advance!)

Started working on my DIY invitations

and my next stop is to find a Dj and photographer as they too tend get booked up super quick

My point being even if you have an 18 month engagement doesn't mean the fun can't start now. It has for me.

12 months is still plenty of time and many people do it for less. 18 months is perfect for us as we get time to really savor every bite of wedding planning.

Hope I was helpful

Good Luck

I got engaged in November and wanted an October wedding. I really wanted a fall wedding, but we're doing it next June instead because that's when we'd be able to save enough to pay for it and I didn't want a 23 month engagement. I won't have pumpkins, but peonies will be an option. I say it really depends on your situation. We didn't have enough money for a 2015 wedding and we already live together, so it's not like we're rushing for anything. Just won't have pumpkins, cider and autumn decor.

Like the other ladies said, 18 months will also give you just about first choice of venues/vendors if you start booking now.

My engagement will be a total of 22 months because I want to graduate before we get married, and I love the timeline that the extra few months has provided us (more time to save to pay cash for everything, first choice of vendors, etc.). If you have the money to get married earlier, then go for it, but otherwise the fall is such a beautiful time to get married.

If you still need time to save go for the longer engagement I'd say wait. We had a 7 month engagement and didn't feel rushed. Seven months actually felt toooooo long. Also, we were able to get a ton of well reviewed and sought after vendors in our area. Everything is usually done/booked the first two months and rest of the engagement is spent waiting till the month before to finish all the details.

We chose to have a 21 month engagement mostly because of financial reasons. We probably could have done it in 16 or so months financially, but I really wanted a May wedding and we just couldn't swing less than a year without getting a loan from his parents (we are determined to pay cash for everything ourselves AND we are saving for a house). I also plan to DIY lots of stuff and didn't want to feel rushed with my projects. Now that our wedding is 14 months away I can't imagine waiting that long! The bottom line of my rambles is, if finances are what are making you wait, I don't think you have another choice unless you are willing to rework your budget and make cuts. So just relax and make the best of it! You will only be engaged once in your life so why not savor the time?