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Why do you someone else? You don't need to have the same number of bridesmaids as groomsmen. Uneven bridal parties are very common.

I think it would be extremely hurtful to your friend to replace her.

Omg so sorry for the losts of your friend children I can't imagine that pain that's shes going through. I do agree with you let her bring it up to you as far as her being in your wedding and you are only right to be understanding. I agree. Only thing you can do now is be there for her and that's it....wish you friend many of prayers

I think all you can do is wait and see and harbor no ill feelings if she decides it's too soon. How awful it must be to lose two children in such a short amount of time. She may want to be a part of your celebration if for no other reason than to forget about her troubles. But either way, the only thing you can do as her friend is be there to support her in this time when she may need you more.

Omg that’s really sad. I know it’s hard not knowing of someone will be in your wedding or not but I’d say let her make the decision and don’t feel like you have to “replace” her with someone else. I had a bridesmaid drop out after I postponed because she had a trip planned. Not work-related or anything, just a personal trip. I postponed my wedding for the day she was due to come home and instead of coming home a day early she just dropped out of the wedding. Personally I knew I never would’ve done that to one of my friends so I was definitely hurt by it. But losing a child is life-changing and awful. Be there for her and I’m sure she’ll let you know if she can be there for you

Let the healing happen for a while before you make any decisions. I agree with the others here, your friend will probably still want to participate even if she doesn’t, I wouldn’t replace her.

Please, please let your friend grieve in her own time and don't even consider replacing her.