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Paige
Savvy December 2015

11 year old sister, what should I ask her to do?

Paige, on August 25, 2015 at 9:53 AM Posted in Planning 0 13

So if planning a wedding isn't stressful enough, I have a very confusing family structure if you want to call it that.

I grew up not knowing my real Dad. My mom then married my step dad. Him and I didn't get along growing up. So I have never been close with him. I met my real dad 5 years ago. Although we have a great relationship, I am still not super close with him. My dad is married to my step-mom. Together they have a girl (11 years old) and a little boy (2 years old). I have spent time getting close with my 11 year old sister. Our wedding is 3 months away and I was just sent a message yesterday asking if she is involved in the wedding. And there was a suggestion to have her and the 2 year old boy walk down together. I have 7 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen in our wedding party. My fiance and I initially said we weren't having a flower girl and ring bearer. And I don't really want to change that 3 months before the wedding. What should I ask her to do? Personal assistant?

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Latest activity by Emmy, on August 25, 2015 at 11:13 AM
  • Mphgirl23
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    Mphgirl23 ·
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    I wouldn't ask her to be your personal assistant..

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  • Jennifer
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    She's a bit old for flower girl... My youngest daughter, who will be 13 at the wedding, is going to be one of my BMs... My son (14 at the wedding) is giving me away...

    This is a tough one... At this late point, I'm not sure.

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  • Lynnie
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    She could be a jr bridesmaid!

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  • AthenaKay
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    Are you having programs? They could hand those out.

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  • Chrissy
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    Junior Bridesmaid?

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  • Emmy
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    Emmy ·
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    Have her get ready with you give her a nice little gift and that should be enough. A personal assistant isn't really a thing of honor and a jr bridesmaid isn't really a thing

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  • Paige
    Savvy December 2015
    Paige ·
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    I am having programs, and was thinking of asking her to hand those out. If I ask her to be a Jr. BM at this point, do we need to add another Groomsmen? I just personally feel like 8 bridesmaids total is an overwhelming number.

    I know that she will be happy to help in anyway. It gets hard to make everyone happy when my family is so all over the place! And this late in the planning, it's a little more challenging.

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  • AthenaKay
    Master June 2015
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    No you wouldn't need a GM if she was a Jr BM.

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  • JamieLynn
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    If she really wants to be involved, I agree with Athena, she could do something small like hand out programs. That would make her feel like she is important and helping out.

    Paige - Welcome to WW!! This forum is awesome and the members here are so helpful. Check out the below link for some helpful info for newer users. It will also help you change your avatar (you will get more responses that way) Happy Planning!

    https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/welcome-to-the-weddingwire-community-please-read-for-forum-lingo-helpful-faq/b433c40c1a62b96a.html

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  • Ostrich
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    Ostrich ·
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    My 16 year old sister was my flower girl and it wasn't a big deal. Really they just walk down as part of the processional, and have no impact on your day. Is there a reason you're against having flower girl or ring bearers? They could wear whatever and just walk down the aisle after your last bridal party member then go sit with whoever.

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  • Paige
    Savvy December 2015
    Paige ·
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    Well the reason we weren't doing a flower girl and ring bearer is that my Fiance has a few different nieces and nephews so we didn't want to choose someone.

    Thanks for all the input!

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  • Ostrich
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    Makes sense, however I think they'd understand that these are your siblings! Also, I had four ring bears and everyone was just glad to be included.

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  • Emmy
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    @emily - ring bears


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