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STBMrsMartin
Dedicated October 2019

100 days - whats next!!??

STBMrsMartin, on July 3, 2019 at 10:39 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19
I can't believe its 100 days away today October 12th!! We have booked a venue, hired the photographer, DJ, ordered my cake, sent out save the dates, ordered dresses, got my dress, got the groomsmen ready to be fitted, ordered bridal shower invites, wedding invites and RSVPs! I have also ordered the decorations and things I want for my guestbook/gift table etc...I like to think I'm on track. Up to this point I haven't been excited bc its all been so stressful. I guess my real questions is....I feel like I need to keep in touch with everyone bc I haven't heard from them and I feel like its rude to pay this money then not talk for 6 months. I hired my DJ in March, I've paid him the deposit and I've contacted him and he says just to make a list and get with him closer to the date for the list to be given....my photographer, do I check in with him or just wait till closer to the date...my cake girl she told me to do nothing closer to the date, my venue I can't do anything with them till I get a head count. I feel lost, I feel like I am being rude by not contacting these people more. Also, I haven't spoken to my girls (except for a few texts) or the groomsmen, its summer and everyone is busy, I just feel lost.....I try to keep myself busy by getting small things done that I know need to still be done....but its all making me so anxious. What do I do now?

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Latest activity by STBMrsMartin, on July 3, 2019 at 1:46 PM
  • Brianna N
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    Date twins! I didn't even realize today was 100 days, OMG! We getting pretty close, it is crazy. I am in this weird place too, where I feel like there is stuff I need to get done, but there really isn't much I can do besides little stuff and paying off vendors! I feel lost haha. So excited but nervous I am forgetting stuff too!

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  • STBMrsMartin
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    Oh yay!! =)

    Yes 100 days!!!!!!!!!!!! Going by crazy fast!!! Its all so frustrating....Like I know I have to pay these people the rest of their money when I get closer, but I'm like well do I casually say "Hey what's up, how are you? I paid you are you still coming?" LOL I have been working on favors, decorating and getting ideas for small things and then I start thinking I want to change my mind on things bc I'm looking at different things all the time LOL I want to go to Hobby Lobby and go crazy ...I have changed my registry what feels like 20 times!!!!! I need something else to focus on hahaha

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  • Brianna N
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    This is exactly how I feel lol! Especially about my DJ and HMUA!

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  • NextChapterReady
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    Date Twins! There really isn't anything more for you to do until you start getting rsvps in! Don't worry, you're not being rude!

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  • SummerBrideInAutumn
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    Another date twin here! The WW countdown clock is weird. Tomorrow is actually 100 days...but close enough! Today I'm working on finalizing my HMUA trial and working on setting up the catering for our morning-after breakfast. There were so many months when there really wasn't much to do and now it's hitting all at once. I knew it was going to be like this but it's still crazy!

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  • STBMrsMartin
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    Yeah all the clocks are a little different, my registry clocks are different than WW too. Oh well, like you said close enough. My hair girl is out of town for the summer and I have to wait till she comes back, I've got kinky curly hair so I'm dying to have her straighten it and see what she can do...we have A LOT of work there. MY FMIL is planning our day after brunch so I just have to figure out when to be there, we are leaving for out honeymoon early that evening so we are probably just making an appearance. I guess I'm going to have to start shopping for outfits and shoes now to have options.....I'm already makeup obsessed I have been testing that in my spare time since I'm doing my own.

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  • Michaela
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    Do you have all the ceremony details done? Like what songs you are walking in and out to, your first dance song, father/daughter, mother/son etc? Do you have all of your accessories for the day? (shoes, jewelery veil etc) Have you done your gift registry? Just ideas to keep you busy!

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  • Jessica
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    We are the weekend before and I am feeling the same way.. though I am a bit stressed about a lot that FH has not taken care of Smiley smile I know it will be here before we know it!!

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  • Mariangeli
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    Date twins! So exciting! There seems to be quite a lot of us lol I have pretty much the same things left as you. Kind of stressed that we haven't gotten any of the men sized yet though. Need to do that this month for sure. Other than that I just have a bunch of little things like signs, table numbers, and little details. It's slow feeling now but its crazy how close it is!!!

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  • STBMrsMartin
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    Yes ma'am, we did all that the day we met with my DJ, its all written out detail by detail in the contract. I do NOT have my accessories, I just need shoes. So that I'm looking for all the time, and maybe a new dress for rehearsal dinner and honeymoon lol I keep changing my registry bc I keep looking at it like "hmmmmmmmm I guess I need that" LOL

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  • STBMrsMartin
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    Oh absolutely!!!!!!!! Yeah my FH is like it will all be perfect stop worrying....but I was told by all four of our groomsmen that by now they would have all gone to get fitted for tuxs....the deadline per Mens Warehouse is Aug 1st...they have all told me they'd have it done weeks ago...but none have yet. I guess I can stay busy by staying on them hahaha

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  • STBMrsMartin
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    Very close, yeah I do need to do table numbers etc, I need to find some ideas for that. Pinterest will be getting hit again a lot very soon I guess LOL

    My guys are my biggest worry...they just don't listen haha I am going to have to take them all myself by the date MW requires if they aren't careful. My FH has his done, just need the fittings and money paid.

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  • Jessica
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    Yep mine keeps telling me not to worry either and I'm like lol.. okay.. Smiley laugh

    If it makes you feel any better, FH still hasn't asked anyone to be in his wedding party nor do I know if the suit has actually been ordered.. so that's cool. Smiley xd

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  • STBMrsMartin
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    Oh goodness! I'd be freaking out! LOL At least there is still time! It took mine 3 months to decide who he wanted and at the last min he changed his mind and changed guys on me, the couldn't come up with another. This is his second marriage (the first on lasted 4 months when he was younger) so he didn't want those guys in this one....I'm like OMG!!!! But we finally did it.

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  • Gen
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    Seems like you're really on top of things!

    Do you have your wedding rings yet? That's the only other thing I can think of.

    It's totally normal to not talk to them until closer to the date. The vendors are likely busy with July/August weddings right now, so they won't have the time to deal with your things very much yet. Once you hit the 2 month mark, they'll be more ready to work with you and things will probably start getting insanely busy.

    My advice is, take a break! Seriously! Go on a date night with your FH, have some fun, and enjoy the calm before the storm! 2 months from now you'll be wishing you had time to take a day off from wedding planning!

    Happy trails Smiley smile

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  • STBMrsMartin
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    Thank you, I'm trying.

    We have mine, we still have to get his and I wanna get us some silicone rings bc we do a lot outdoors. That makes me feel better, they are busy I guess. We have been trying to do as much as we can, we went on a little weekend retreat to the springs in the gulf and went kayaking, we go fishing and the beach every weekend.....so when it hits we will at least have a tan LOL

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  • Mariangeli
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    I haven't done a thing with the guys and I am starting to get nervous. I told my FH to pick where he wanted the suits becuase him and his friends live pretty far from me. he has yet to do this so we have nothing for them done. It is so stressful!

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    My thought exactly I've been stalking the knot for the 100 day mark (tomorrow)!

    OP: Anyways, I have been dealing with setting up the bridal party trip to Vegas and figuring out and buying decor. I feel as though I hit a wall and don't want to buy as much decor as I originally had ideas for. I am just like blehhh idc right now. I haven't reached out to any vendors really but we are gonna make some payments here shortly. I reached out to my venue to set up the tasting which I think is supposed to be this month! We have to look at tuxes later this month also! Bridal shower invites went out so I am looking for an outfit. I have ideas, basically didn't purchase anything yet but some decor!

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  • STBMrsMartin
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    Angelena you sound like me. I guess I'm just going to go buy some outfits and some accessories =) We haven't planned my Bachelorette party yet bc my MOH has to have a hysterectomy sometime at the end of July and my Bridal shower is the 18th of August. They are wanting to plan a girls weekend in Epcot but we have to wait how everyone feels and who call can afford it and wants to go...so when my MOH feels better she said she will get on that. I've been checking into prices and what not. My venue wants a head count before we do our tasting for the dinner etc since we are only doing one entrée. My wall has def been reached =)


    Mariangeli, some of my groomsmen are out of town and I keep having my FH call them and they keep saying yeah I'm going to do it pay day....well that was like 3/4 paydays ago, with the Mens Warehouse deadline I'm starting to get frustrated that they are putting it off. We do still need to order my flower girls dress and the ring bearers tux but they are growing so we waited.

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