10 Days before the Wedding. Bridesmaid Drop Out

The wedding is causing you so much stress. Is there anyway your cousin (original bridesmaid) can lend you the money. She says no she cant she has too many expenses. So I tell her “well im sorry I Guess I hope to see you as a guest”. Then she says “I Feel horrible that I sprung this on you the week before the wedding”. Anyway im just annoyed that she chose to tell me this now it really felt like she was trying to get me to pay for that dress and I refuse to. Now what I was wondering is what is going to happen to said dress. It is still at the bridal salon and it has not been paid for. The receipt is under the original bridesmaid. Im assuming they will probably call her asking her to pay up those alterations cost. Has anyone experienced this?

Hasn't happened to me, but if the dress is in the original BM's name then the BM and cousin will just have to figure it out themselves. Not your problem. Go forward with your day don't let this drama bother you.

This is very bizarre. IDK why the cousin was ever an option in the first place lol. As far as the dress - it's not your problem. Let the bridemaid/cousin figure it out.

Wait, were you friends with the cousin that stepped in? I'm so confused.

Yeah, this is strange. i also don't understand how there would be $250 in alterations on the bridesmaid dress? seems like she could have just purchased a totally new one for less.

Sounds to me like she needs to pay up. This is not your responsibility.

I'd just let it go.

250 is an absurd amount for alterations for a bridesmaids dress for a wedding that you weren't even asked to be a part of anyway.

It sucks that it's last minute, but just have both your friend and her cousin attend as guests.

Are you close with her cousin? Why did she step in in the first place? It's not your fault she QUIT her job. If she got laid off, that'd be different. But she quit. That was her decision. Let her & Original BM figure out costs.

Well I had invited her cousin to the wedding anyway so my pregnant bridesmaid suggested her cousin could step in her place since she couldnt do it. I figured okay fine since they are cousins they would figure out the money issue. But regardless of that I just dont want this to come back to me after the wedding because theres an altered dress at the bridal shop that has not been paid for.

She couldnt order a new dress because the original bridesmaid went in april to try on her dress and the bridal shop said there is no way a new dress would arrive for the wedding. These dresses were ordered in November 2016 and they arrived mid march

Is this cousin even your friend? Why did you ask her to replace pregnant BM in the first place? Well, one of them should step up and pay for the altered dress at least.

They're probably going to go after the original BM for payment. I'd let the original BM and her cousin handle that shit show, and stay far away from that. Yikes.

@ OG Dianna if you read my post I never asked to replace her I was fine with her participating. She chose to step down because she would be 8 months pregnant and didnt feel comfortable. So she suggested her cousin take her place. Yes I am also friends with her cousin as she was already invited to attend the wedding that is the only reason I agreed. NO i did not just have a random person take her place.

I'm guessing that the dress will just stay at the shop unclaimed. Im assuming it was paid for in full, minus the alterations?

If yes, I guess I do feel like there is some obligation for someone to pay for the work that was done.

I think this is up to the former BM and her cousin to figure out- maybe they can call the shop, explain the situation and make payments on the alterations.

In hindsight, you probably should have let the BM step down without replacing her.

Why would you want your friend's family member who you aren't close with in your wedding in the first place??

$250 is also ridiculous for alterations for a BM dress especially when you 2 aren't close and she wasn't even asked to be a BM.

But I digress-- this is not your problem.

@gymrat I really hope so lol I dont need to be worrying about this the week before my wedding

If it is in their name just let it go. You don't have to worry about the seamstress bothering you for the money.

Okay, it just seemed that way in the way it was worded. Just have them figure it out. It's not your issue.

I don't understand why you think you may be financially responsible for the alterations. Did you purchase the dress and coordinate getting it altered?

No all the bridesmaids paid for their dresses. The only thing the store does is include them in a bridal party to store dresses together but thats about it. I was just wondering thats all.