+1 annoyance

YES! It’s common. However, stick to your guns. Our plus ones are for people that have been together, married & engaged couples, parents that are still in relationships and those that live together. Which, like you said, isn’t a plus one lol. So, nope, no plus one.

View Quoted Comment Lol even if I wanted to I couldn’t give anyone a plus one because I’ve already hit my maximum haha. It just baffles me how some people just make assumptions about someone else’s wedding

I have a guest that assumed he could bring a plus one. His invitation only had his name on it. He informed me he was bringing a girl he met online and had only gone out to dinner once with. We’re having a small wedding with only 40 people. My fiancé told him he was not to bring anyone. He knows everyone going so it’s not like he will have no one to hang out with that night. I think he was upset about it but understood.

If he keeps bothering you, he can be a minus one.

View Quoted Comment Concur with this!

My dad is single and keeps joking about how he doesn’t know who he’s going to bring. “Maybe I’ll rent a date” he says...

i know he’s kidding but ummmm... he’s not dating anyone, hasn’t in 5+ years. Also, if he does bring someone it would be the first time I’m meeting this person!?

Really annoying. Also my sister keeps saying “maybe I’ll have a date by next June”

so since it’s my dad and sister I’m just gonna let them do whatever!? Annoying tho.

YES!! I don't understand why people assume they get a plus 1?! I have two people coming that have told me they are bringing someone with them, just not sure who yet. (We are a month out!) Like what?! You've already replied to the RSVP for two and two meals, but not sure who you are bringing yet?

I love the mindset of people like no we can have your plus ones plus the people who invite themselves its crazy. Like no you are coming and that's it.

Same 🙄 we asked someone if he was coming since our rsvp deadline passed and we haven’t heard anything. He responded with “yeah, I’ll be there. I’m either bringing my gf of my 13 yr old daughter” 😤 the daughter was not invited either, as were having adults only and not even close with these people. So annoying. And to clarify, our rsvp cards had “we have reserved __ seats in your honor, # attending __” I thought that would make it easy to understand but apparently not

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I really like this wording for RSVP cards...I might have to steal this! We're having an adults only ceremony and reception as well and while I don't think anyone would try to bring their kids, you can never be too sure.

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Not yet, but I'm sure once we send out save the dates people will start asking. We don't plan on giving plus ones. Every time my FH and I discuss this I think about this one friend of ours that has been to other weddings of people in our friends group. He would always RSVP for 2, saying he was bringing someone and then show up alone. I know that's only 1 person but it's just rude in my opinion. You make the couple pay for this person and then just don't bother to bring them? And what gets me is this guy knew a lot of people at these weddings, and he will know the same people at ours. It's not like he knows no one. This is what makes me say no to plus ones.

View Quoted Comment Yes‼️

They cant even bother to ask?

I had invited my Mom’s first cousins that I’m familiar with. Two children of one Cousin let me know that they wanted to attend beforehand. “Okay, I can add you”. I had my Aunt (Uncle’s ex-wife let me know that she needed to bring her new Husband. My Mom’s friend asked if she could bring her special friend. Okay, I can plan for that too.

I had 3 uninvited guests that ate and one even took a to-go plate. You can’t call/r-mail/text to see if you can sub someone in or bring another person?

These people had a way to contact me.

They just (mistakenly) presumed that it’d be okay to bring or sub.

My Mother said, “You don’t go where you weren't invited”.

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LOL!!!!!!! I love this. But yes, OP, be firm and tell him he is not getting a plus one!

View Quoted Comment Hahahah yes that’s so great. I’m going to say that next time he brings it up lol

Yes. I think people don't realize how expensive weddings are it's like if we had the money to let everyone have one we would have stated it

View Quoted Comment Oh wow. Some people lol. Did you clarify to him he had to come alone?

We're in the same boat. We cannot allow plus ones because we're already at our maximum. I feel awful about it but the people without plus ones know each other well so I'm not TOO worried about it.

View Quoted Comment I thought I had lol. I said Were not doing plus ones for anyone because we’d have to give them to everyone and that’d be 30 extra people and $3,000+ extra. A few minutes later he made a snide comment of “apparently were not getting plus ones.” There are 9 people in our friend group and they’re all going so idek who he would bring ? But now he’s talking about it again lol

View Quoted Comment Your wedding is a year out. There's a very good chance someone who is currently single will have an SO or be married by then. What's your plan in that situation?