At first, I was pretty lukewarm on the process of holding a wedding. Me and my now wife had already gotten a marriage certificate during the pandemic two years prior, and the thought of going through the entire process and expense of putting on such a production seemed to be overkill to celebrate something that had already "happened.''

Now, however, thanks primarily to Rabbi Brent, I look back at the lead-up to our wedding and our ceremony as a truly wonderful experience that I believe will pay dividends decades into the future. Alongside helping lead a beautiful wedding, we're convinced the process materially improved the chances of us having a healthy marriage that lasts in the long run.

As we began our introductory session, very quickly my wife and I realized that we were about to undergo the furthest thing from an assembly-line process a few of my friends have been disappointed in in their experiences with religious officiants.

Rabbi Brent began by quickly leading us into conversations in and out of session with him about the shape and tenor of our lives. These sorts of discussions we had occasionally engaged with but were too polite and non-confrontational to address directly. Rabbi Brent got us talking about what matters, like the shape and tenor of the lives we hoped to live with each other, what marriage meant to both of us, the expectations we had for each other in our relationship, and what role we wanted Judaism to play in our lives.

While leading into these conversations, he also gave us the tools to address them more constructively and from a more loving posture. We would check in every few weeks, check in on what serious life topics we discussed and what fights we had. Rabbi Brent is openminded and a world-class listener who did a masterful job of taking us into and beyond our disagreements and transforming them into learning opportunities on how we should best engage with each other. While he has a rough schema for the types of topics he wants to get into, he is flexible and skilled enough to use the "material" our relationship raises each week to bring us to where the discussions grow most useful.

The principles and tools he introduced and demonstrated on our disagreements helped us look at problems thematically and not settle for one-off solutions. For instance, the framework he kept coming back to, the need to recall the occasionally wide distance between impact and intention, is a really helpful way of looking at relationships I expect to come back to for decades to come. These discussions culminated in an exercise to write a ketubah which was deeply meaningful to both of us.

Our relationship was between a Jew and a gentile, and Rabbi Brent handled the discussions with sensitivity and grace. He led a beautiful ceremony us three developed together that was a life highlight.

I could not give a stronger recommendation for choosing Rabbi Brent to accompany you and your future spouse through your marriage process. If you have questions feel free to get in touch with me via linkedin or twitter https://www.linkedin.com/in/jorschneider https://twitter.com/jordanschnyc?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor.

We couldn't have asked for a better wedding officiant than Rabbi Brent. His genuine care, eloquence, and ability to tailor our ceremony to reflect our love story made our day truly magical. If you want a memorable and personal wedding experience, Rabbi Brent is the perfect choice. Our love for each other deepened through our counseling sessions with Rabbi Brent. We have found a life long friend and advocate in Rabbi Brent.

When thinking about the countless decisions we made for our wedding, I don’t think any were more impactful than our decision to work with Rabbi Brent. Not only did working with him lead to an amazing wedding day, but our many meetings together before the ceremony helped prepare us for the lifetime of marriage ahead of us. These interactions were so personal and instructive with how to approach the milestone of marriage, and working with him to discuss the true challenges and joys of this commitment provided us with an honest, sincere understanding of what is to come. Working with him to craft our own custom Ketubah text was such a meaningful and special experience and we are so glad that we will have this text to guide us throughout our marriage. We also can’t speak highly enough about how wonderful a job Rabbi Brent did on our wedding day. Our immediate family all recount our ketubah signing as their favorite part of the day, and we could not have imagined a more beautiful or meaningful chuppah ceremony. We’ve received feedback from numerous guests, both Jewish and not, about how great Rabbi Brent was and how the ceremony was both personal and accessible.

When you work with Rabbi Brent, you become a member of his congregation - this means you are privy to his wisdom, his kindness, and his generosity as he works personally with you as a couple to plan a memorable wedding ceremony and a meaningful life ahead. We are SO glad we chose to work with Rabbi Brent and would do it over again in a heartbeat.