Weddings...just because someone invited you to their wedding do you have to invite them to yours?

Nope. Weddings are not tit for tat. Every wedding size, budget and scope is different. It has nothing to do with etiquette.

Honestly I wouldn't even mess with a B list- that actually can get you into etiquette trouble. Just narrow your guest list to those important enough to make the A list and leave it at that IMO.

If your doing 100 close family and not friends I dont see why you would invite her...if it comes up just explain that you are trying to keep it small and only inviting close family.

Bump- cause I'm in the same boat w/ a few friends.

No. Definitely not. A friend of mine invited me to hers this past summer. Unfortunately I wasn't able to make it, but I did celebrate with her at her bachelorette party. So I'm not sure if I should invite her or not. :-/

I wouldn't be insulted if someone didn't invite me to theirs...if they had a big family, tight budget etc then there's nothing to get upset about. If your friend asks just tell her it is a family wedding. If she chooses to get upset and doesn't understand that's her choice.

Sometimes I feel like I have to. I was almost relieved to not be invited to some more intimate weddings just because I didn't want to have to invite them to mine.

I'm going through a thing right now where I feel like I have to invite certain people I fellowship with in my church. I go back and forth about inviting them or not. I've even collected their addresses and am still going back and forth about it. It would take like 20 to 25 people off my list and save some money.

I just don't know. I think people will get over it but sometimes you wanna keep the peace...

I'm on the fence with this one.... :/

Nope i was invited to a wedding & i don't even know the girl but my FH does but we are under a guest limitation as to we don't what to cover the dance floor with tables & not be able to dance at all!

Nope

I would say that this has nothing to do with Etiquette and everything to do with individual situations, what you can afford, and what you are comfortable with. if enough people can't make it and you are able to invite more/want to , then great, if not, that's just how it is!

I am going through the same thing and the crazy thing is that I am not even sure they will attend so I may invite just to say I did.

I dont think you have to.

I would say no. Not everyone has the same budget. And that can get out of hand if you have alot of weddings in one year, that's alot of people you have to invite to yours. But at the same time my mom invited people to my wedding after she was invited to their daughter's wedding. We grew up across the street together but haven't seen each other in 10 years. Honestly, it just gets to be a tricky situation.

No, you really don't have to.

I was a BM in a wedding where the bride invited literally everybody from our department. She want the have the same number of guests as her husband, and she wanted to have a large wedding. She's not even talking to most of these people any more, let alone get invitations for their weddings. I'm not saying your June friend did that :-) but the point is, wedding invitations are not tit for tat.

Thanks everyone, your advice helped a lot!

Yeah I'm definitely in the same boat as well with one of my friends....we aren't super close but on occasion we will hang out and get together....and we talk on FB but that's about it...and then she told me that she needed my address so she could send me an invitation and I was like really surprised because yes we talk but we aren't super close and I wasn't even thinking about inviting her to mine....my budget is definitely not like hers as she has her mom paying for her entire wedding while me and FH are paying for this ourselves so I'm not sure if she will get an invite just for budget reasons because if I invite her I would also have to include her husband and her sister as well

This is tricky if you want to remain friends after the weddings are over. We invited my husband's cousin and even let her bring her then boyfriend to our wedding. They ate, they drank, took loads of pictures in our photobooth...pretty much had a grand ole time. A year past and they never sent a gift but in the meantime my husband's cousin has become engaged. Thinking they would invite us to their wedding because we are family and we invited them to ours, we let the "they didn't give a gift thing go" thinking we would also get to enjoy a free dinner, drinks, cake, dancing on them. My husband was devastated when he found out we weren't invited! I was hurting for him and I just think his cousin is a low class mooch! Trust me, she made her bed now when we see her we will let her know what we think of her. Karma could come back to haunt her. So all of you that think it's ok not to invite somebody that invited you to their wedding, you're wrong or less you want to end a friendship!

Also, some of you say you weren't that close to the person who invited you to her wedding. Then I must ask...why did you go? Free food and drink? If you're invited to a wedding of somebody you wouldn't invite to yours, DON'T GO and be a mooch. If you go, you best give a fantastic gift. Had my husband's cousin given a gift, we wouldn't be so upset she didn't invite us to her wedding. Yeah, I'm a tit or tat person.

View Quoted Comment Erin: wow you seem very materialistic when it comes to weddings, so I’d think you understand more than anyone that budget can be a big thing
while I do think your husband‘s cousin should have given you guys some sort of gift, I’m not sure you have the best mindset when it comes to the fact that they enjoyed your wedding, which you guys voluntarily invited them to, They never forced or guilted an invite out of you, It’s a bit much to expect to be invited to a cousin’s wedding, especially if they’re trying to keep the budget low and invite immediate family only. I don’t really agree that it’s a tit for tat situation, and while it’s nice to receive a gift as a Momento of someone celebrating your wedding, the real purpose to invite people is to celebrate your happy day with them Because you want to share the joy with them, and not so that you can get a gift from them
I am personally, getting married at a time when all my friends are married and I have lost touch with a lot of them now. They invited me to their weddings and I went and celebrated and gave them great gifts but I’m not inviting them to my wedding because I’m not in touch with them anymore and I’m not going to invite somebody just so that I can get a gift back from them LOL that’s ridiculous