Unity candle before or after the vows and exchange of rings?
I am writing up our wedding ceremony and am having a hard time deciding when the unity candle should be lit.This is how I have it right now.

Welcome everyone and thank you all for joining us today as Kevin and Danice exchange wedding vows and leave here tonight as husband and wife.

Kevin and Danice,
On your wedding day, as you trade vows,
No ordinary moment hurries by.
You partake, as far as time allows,
Of something more than time, Earth and sky:
Unknowable, invisible, yet there;
Resplendent to the heart if not the face;
More than both of you, yet less than air;
A transcendental act conferring grace.
Reason might say, How can this be true?
Return then to the heart, for this is love.
In making vows, you make one out of two,
A mystery beyond what words can prove.
Go then as one flesh, one home, one heart:
Each still a whole, yet also now a part.

The candle you are about to light is a candle of Marriage. Its fire is magical because it represents the light of two people in love. The candle before you is a candle of Commitment because it takes two people working together to keep it aflame.(Kevin and Danice light unity candle together then return to center)


Danice repeat after me
I Danice take you Kevin to be my husband and my partner in life from this day forward.I will cherish our friendship, trust and honor you,laugh with you and love you always through good times and bad.I give you this ring as a symbol of our love and friendship,and as a promise to always be faithful to you.(Put Kevins ring on)

Kevin repeat after me
I Kevin take you Danice to be my wife and my partner in life from this day forward.I will cherish our friendship, trust and honor you,laugh with you and love you always through good times and bad.I give you this ring as a symbol of our love and friendship,and as a promise to always be faithful to you.(Put Danice's ring on)

By the power vested in me I now pronounce you husband and wife.You may now kiss the bride.

Married: 07/31/2010
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Posted On: Jul 6, 2010 at 7:09 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Married: 10/16/2010
Reviews: 3
Jul 06, 2010 at 7:17 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Our officiant suggested the unity ceremony be right before the vows.

Married: 07/03/2010
Reviews: 6
Jul 06, 2010 at 7:22 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We did ours after the vows since that was officially when the "union" took place.

Amie326 - formally known as"."
Married: 03/26/2011
Reviews: 5
Jul 06, 2010 at 7:25 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I was told after vows.

Rev. Carleen Burns

With This Ring
Jul 06, 2010 at 9:20 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
After.

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Married: 2+ years ago
Jul 06, 2010 at 9:26 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We are doing a Sands Ceremony but it will be after our Vows.

Mrs. Jacques
Married: 07/10/2010
Reviews: 5
Jul 06, 2010 at 10:06 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
After :)

CamoBride
Married: 08/07/2010
Reviews: 4
Jul 06, 2010 at 10:25 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Our officiant wrote our ceremony in the following order:
Processional
Introduction
The Vows
Unity Ceremony
Declaration of Marriage - and the kiss!
Recessional
Jul 07, 2010 at 12:32 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Vows, rings, candle. the candle shows that you have been joined, not that you will be joined,.. plus it represents the first walk you take together. If you are having the two side family candles, the mothers (or all parents) light those before the processional, and you use those to light the unity candle. If you are not having "family" candles, then someone else needs to light them before the mothers are seated.
May 13, 2014 at 6:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
After your vows and exchange of rings.
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